Part of being a woman who sits with her desire is that What we wanted yesterday might not hit today. 🌙 
Desire shifts and evolves. Part of our work as women is learning to honor that truth, approve of it, and then communicate it, whether that’s with a partner, a friend, or ourselves. Sometimes it’s sparkling water… and sometimes it’s sparkling grape juice. 🍇 The point is: your desires are allowed to change. Let’s get In approval of that and learn to communicate it. 🎙️ This clip is from Episode 104 🍇Reclaiming Your Turn-On: Why Desire Fluctuates and How to Keep It Alive🍇 of the Desire as Medicine podcast (link in bio). How does this land for you? Do you let yourself change your mind when your desire shifts? I’d love to hear. #desireasmedicine #womensdesire #relationshipwisdom #podcastclip #changingdesires #selfapproval #selfexpression #desirejourney #honoryourdesires #relationshipcommunication #selfgrowth #womenempowerment #womensupportingwomen #innerwisdom #emotionaltruth #sparkjoy #embodiedliving #mindbodyconnection #sacredfeminine #selftrust #innerknowing #intuition #desireevolution #authenticliving #changeyourmind #permissiontobeyou #embodiedwoman #podcastreels #womenanddesire #desirepodcast

I choose life, always. My beautiful radiant life. I trust life and I am open to what the universe brings me. Because of that, magic and miracles are always flowing to life. I am truly grateful to receive life's gifts. If you’re ready to open to life’s gifts too, book a Constellation Session with me and discover what’s waiting for you. Link in bio to book, or DM me xoxo Happy Birthday to me 🌺 #ChoosingRadiance #RadiantLife #BirthdayMagic #BirthdayReflections #BirthdayBlessings #DanceWithAncestors #AncestralHealing #FamilyConstellations #ConstellationHealing #GriefJourney #GriefHealing #GriefSupport #HealingThroughGrief #SacredCelebration #LifeAsCeremony #EmbodiedWisdom #SoulAlignment #SacredLiving #ConsciousLife #OpenToReceive #LifeForceEnergy #TrustTheUniverse #MenopauseJourney #PerimenopauseSupport #MenopauseWisdom #SacredMenopause #ReclaimingMidlife #TransformationJourney #AwakenYourSoul #LivingAligned

Family Constellations create space for deep release and profound shifts - for you and for your family. If you feel the weight of what you’re carrying isn’t fully yours, or if you feel pulled down by the same thoughts or circumstances over and over, a Constellation session can help you return to yourself with more freedom, clarity, and love. Ready to experience this kind of shift? DM me or use the link in my bio to set up your Family Constellation session. I'd love to support you in having more freedom in your life and in your relationships. xoxo Brenda #familyconstellations #healingjourney #generationalhealing #ancestralhealing #traumahealing #innerwork #selflovejourney #healingtrauma #healingfromwithin #emotionalhealing #healinggenerationaltrauma #selfdiscoveryjourney #motherhoodjourney #healingforself #healingpath #soulhealing #breakthecycle #healingenergy #healingispossible #healingrelationships #healingtheinnerchild #transformationalhealing #healingwork #ancestraltrauma #traumarelease #healingyourself #healingancestraltrauma #emotionalfreedom #healingpractice #healingtransformation

Who are you? I mean, your real, true self. The one you might be hiding, holding back, searching for, or just starting to understand. What gets in the way of you fully stepping into your potential? When you get genuinely curious about that, you’ve found your pot of gold. Follow it—it will lead you home to yourself. Everything I do with clients is in service of helping them fully embody their true self. 🙏🏼 The world needs more women standing in their honest, true, embodied power. Message me if you feel the call to do this work with me.💜 You can also schedule a free Discovery Call - link in bio. Would love to connect. #GenerationalGrowth #SacredParenting #EmbodyLove #HealingWithIntention #TransformYourLegacy #HeartCenteredHealing #AwakenedMotherhood #BreakingFamilyPatterns #InnerWorkMatters #AlignedParenting #SelfHealingJourney #HealingThroughEmbodiment #HealGrowThrive #RewriteTheFuture #ConsciousMothering #LiberateYourself #NervousSystemHealing #AncestralConnection #HealingThroughAwareness #EmpoweredParenting #CyclesOfHealing #SovereignMother #IntergenerationalGrowth #RewriteFamilyPatterns #EmotionalResilience #HealingAsRevolution #LovingYourselfFirst #TransformTheNextGeneration #RootedInLove #YourHealingMatters

Exercising feels different now than it has ever felt before. I have always done activities that challenged me physically, but I can honestly and humbly say I have never experienced this level of resistance in my body. In June, I received a downloaded message in pilates and two clear paths were shown to me. One of medicines and illness, the other of working hard and being healthy and vibrant. It was clear that I was choosing health and movement and I firmly committed. A few weeks later I hurt my knee teaching Qoya. I paused everything except swimming, let it heal, and then slowly got back to it for the past few weeks. Then I got bronchitis last week! I see many examples of women in their 50s+ excelling at incredible things like martial arts, running, dancing and strength training. Those examples are so inspiring and motivating, but they don't live in my body. (yet) Yet I feel so deeply called to this path. Our bodies and systems are very intelligent and I respect that intelligence immensely. We are wired to choose the actions that preserve loyalty and belonging with our family, even when those choices go against what we consciously want. This is where awareness, discernment and titration come in. To consciously choose something different is possible, and in doing so, we are often faced with deep reistance that tries to keep us loyal to the old way. I see this as love. My system is trying to keep me safe by belonging. I used to rebel against these kinds of things, but rebellion is still being in the pattern - it hasn't been alchemized yet. True change requires us to love the very thing we want to change. It lives inside of us, and why would we want to hate or rebel against any part of ourselves? All of our parts need our love. We cannot hate ourselves into transformation. Part 2 in comments

For women, self-denial, martyrdom, and deprivation are celebrated. So when we finally give ourselves what we’ve been craving, whether it’s food, pleasure, rest, sex, or something we’ve longed for, it’s easy to slip into shame or regret. Here’s the truth: that’s okay, too. 
Every experience has a place on the map. 
Awareness of all these places is the key to creating the life you want. ❤️ 🎙️Clip from Episode 102: Hungry Ghosts: When Desire Becomes Insatiable Link in bio to book a Discovery Call and to listen to the full episode 🔗💛 #selfnourishment #womensupportingwomen #selflovejourney #healingjourney #selfacceptance #womenempowerment #selfcarematters #bodywisdom #reclaimyourpower #healyourself #nourishyoursoul #pleasureactivist #healingforwomen #shamerelease #embodiedliving #womenwhorise #selfloveclub #selfcarefirst #permissiontothrive #innerhealing #nourishyourself #feminineenergy #personalgrowthjourney #healingfromwithin #loveyourselffirst #mindbodyconnection #femininepower #healyourbody #selfhealers #choosenourishment

I just listened to our most recent podcast episode, and I was moved to tears. Catherine and I really nailed this one. I shared a story from years ago in my marriage when I didn’t know how to voice a desire I had. So I dropped it and grew resentful. This over and over again is a relationship killer. It never occurred to me back then that I could keep showing up as a woman who owns and holds her desires, without getting stuck on If or How they would ever happen. Desire truly wants to be expressed🌸 Period. I used to keep it all in. It would get trapped inside me, and my mind would take over, spinning stories that made me, my relationship, and him all wrong. I cried after listening to this episode because hindsight makes it all so clear. But the truth is, we have to go through it to truly embody the lesson. I’m so grateful to now be a woman who knows and expresses her desires, big and small. Listen to episode 101, Desire vs. Discontent: What Your Frustration is Trying to Tell You. We are on all podcast directories. 🎧 What desire do you have that wants to be expressed? #desire #femininepower #selfexpression #embodiment #womenswisdom #relationshipgrowth #emotionalintelligence #healingjourney #personaldevelopment #ownyourvoice #podcastepisode #intimacy #resentment #emotionalawareness #growthmindset #selfreflection #innerwork #feminineleadership #vulnerability #communicationtools #mindbodyconnection #spiritualgrowth #marriagetruths #honestconversations #authenticliving #knowyourself #relationshipadvice #womensupportingwomen #emotionalhealing #podcastrecommendation

🎉 100 Episodes! 🎉 🎙️Episode 100: Celebrating 100 Episodes: Desire, Self-Love, and Transformation We’re celebrating a huge milestone on the Desire as Medicine podcast—and it’s all thanks to YOU. 💫 What started as living room conversations has turned into a bold, beautiful exploration of desire, self-love, and transformation—for us, and for you. Over 100 episodes, we’ve mapped a path for women (and the people who love them) to live more authentically. We’ve laughed, cried, stretched ourselves professionally, and stayed devoted to one core truth: ✨ Desire is medicine. And when you follow it? Everyone around you benefits. 🌹 We’ve heard your stories. From the woman who stopped straightening her hair to embrace her natural beauty, to the man who finally felt seen in a world that rarely makes space for male emotion—you’ve shown us that this work matters. And we’re just getting started. 🎙️📹 We’re moving into video clips, expanding the conversation, and continuing to explore the messy, magical terrain of desire. Thank you for walking with us. ❤️ Want to celebrate with us?
🎧 Leave a review on Apple Podcasts + tell us how this show has touched your life! 👇 Highlights from the journey so far: 💗 The Self-Love Series (ep 35+) reminded us: self-love is built through daily, consistent actions
🎨 Showing up to our desires grows us as creatives & professionals
🌱 Your stories reflect real transformation in body, emotions, & relationships
💬 Men are embracing emotional expression through this work
📵 Practical shifts (like phones out of bedrooms!) are landing
🔥 Our core message: When you follow desire, it uplifts everyone around you 🎧 Tune in on Desire as Medicine. 
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I take space clearing quite seriously. I give myself ample time to get myself ready & eat well so I feel grounded and ready to hold space for someone’s family constellation. Women come to me with such deep personal gorgeous truths, desires and pains. 🙌🏽 I clear the space of anything not in the highest good of either of us, and our families and loved ones. Then I welcome our ancestors and spiritual guides who want to support us in the deep journey we are about to embark on. What is truly magical about constellations is that we are putting attention on the unseen, the hidden and often entangled dynamics that are still playing out in our lives. Just being in the knowing field with love and intention has so much power. After a session, there’s little to do except take care of yourself and allow the shifts and revelations to emerge. The work is in showing up to the session, the willingness to speak what is heavy on your heart, or what you’ve been silently carrying all these years, to face it, and feel it. I hold my clients through this and it’s such a privilege for me to do so. DM me about a Family Constellation session. Links in bio 💗 #LegacyOfLove #GenerationalHealing #BreakTheCycle #MotherLineHealing #HealingThroughTheFeminine #EmbodyYourPower #FeminineWisdom #MatriarchRising #RewriteTheStory #WomenWhoHeal #HealedMothersHealChildren #TheNewWay #AwakenedMotherhood #DaughtersOfTheEarth #EmpoweredWomenEmpowerWomen #RippleEffect #LeadWithLove #SacredTransformation #AncestralHealing #SelfLedWoman #ReclaimYourLineage #AwakenTheLineage #ConsciousParenting #familyconstellations #PathOfTheHeart #ClaimYourPath #RiseRooted #MotherDaughterHealing

Sometimes I feel it so clearly, a quiet hum in my body, like something ancient is rolling around in me. It’s not just mine. It’s my mother’s, her mother’s and so on.... All the women who came before me. Their breath lives in my body. Their stories, spoken and unspoken, pulse through my blood. I used to think it was just me, overgiving, overfunctioning, holding the weight of everyone else’s needs. But now I know: this is the voice of the lineage. And it’s asking to be heard. Lately, when those familiar patterns rise up, I pause. I sit with the ache. I ask: Is this mine? Is this old? Is there another way that aligns with my desires more? This work is quiet and slow, and important. Every time I choose honesty over silence, boundaries over resentment, rest over proving, I am honoring my ancestors and offering something new for my life. Solidifying the life I really want. If you're feeling the rub too, if something deep inside is whispering to you, and you want guidance navigating it, then let's GO. 💌 Message me if you’re ready to listen with your body and rewrite your story. Book a Master the Madness 3-Session Reset, a Family Constellation session, or my deeper 1:1 Legacy of Love work. Book a Discovery Call to find what is best for you. #HealingTheLineage #AncestralHealing #BreakTheCycle #EmbodiedAwareness #SomaticWisdom #Motherline #GenerationalHealing #LegacyOfLove #ItEndsWithMe #RootedHealing #RewriteTheStory #EmbodiedTransformation #SelfRespectIsLove #EmotionalHealing #BodyKnows #BoundariesAreLove #NewWayForward #AwakenTheLineage #ListeningToMyBody #HealingInCommunity #WomenWhoHeal #SacredPause #QoyaInspired #ConsciousMothering Ask ChatGPT

The invitation to step deeper into your true self shows up as a feeling in your body. 
It could be an activation, a zing, a whisper. I call these Love Letters from the Past. Quiet knowings that something is ready to shift. This is the threshold between the old way and the new possibility. Are you ready to listen to the messages your body receives? To rewrite your story? Do you feel called to to deepen your embodied awareness in this way? If so, I’d love to work together. Ways to Work with Me: Legacy of Love: 1:1 Journey Family Constellation Sessions Master the Madness: 3 Session Reset Links in bio to book a Discovery Call to see which of my services are a fit for you. #ancestralhealing #somatichealing #embodiedwisdom #lineagehealing #generationalhealing #breakthecycle #healingjourney #bodyknows #traumahealing #nervoussystemhealing #healingthroughmovement #emotionalwellness #mindbodyconnection #reparenting #selfhealers #conscioushealing #somaticawareness #familypatterns #embodiedhealing #innerwork #healingthemotherwound #chooseanewway #rootedhealing #legacywork #healingispossible #embodiedchange #selfcompassion #healyourlineage #yogajourney #beachyoga

So many of us carry things that were never ours to begin with. When we look around, we may see the way it’s always been done, and it's easy to get caught in the limitation that "this is how it is" and "this is how it always needs to be" You are the architect of your life, and you get to decide how you want to live. Even when it feels impossible, it is possible. I shine my light for you to KNOW that something different is possible and available. If you want it, it wants you. Your work is to trust your desire and lean in to the mystery of the unfolding. I am here to back you while you walk this path. You can have the life you desire, for yourself and your family. If any of these blind spots hit home, know you’re not alone. If this speaks to you, and if you’re feeling called to go deeper, DM me about my Legacy of Love offerings. Links in bio.💜 #generationalhealing #breakthecycle #selfhealers #innerchildhealing #ancestralhealing #selfcompassion #healingjourney #emotionalhealth #lineagehealing #traumahealing #consciousmotherhood #familydynamics #innerwork #motherwound #legacyoflove #reparenting #healyourlineage #somatichealing #soulwork #healingwithlove #healingisholy #healingispossible #blindspots #youarenotalone

So proud of my client - this kind of voice message makes my day. This is what change feels like.�It’s not always pretty, and not always easy. ✨ “I finally feel like I have a real chance to change this.”✨ �That moment of realization, when you stop running, stop bypassing and start seeing, is where you start the shift internally, and that has the power to change everything. You don’t have to keep passing down what you were taught.�You can break the chain. It starts with you, and it’s possible to shift it. What do you want your legacy to be? 💜 If you’re ready to look at your family patterns with compassion and clarity, I’d love to work with you. Book a free Discovery Call to explore which of my services is the best fit for you. 1:1 Legacy of Love, Family Constellation session, Master the Madness one month package are all available for you. �🔗 Link in bio. #breakthecycle #familyconstellations #generationalhealing #healingjourney #innerwork #selfawareness #consciousparenting #emotionalhealing #ancestralhealing #legacyoflove #motherhoodunfiltered #shadowwork #energyhealing #somatichealing #reparenting #healingtrauma #traumaawareness #healingfamilies #cyclebreakers #womenswisdom #matrilinealhealing #healyourlineage #healingispossible #patternbreaking #sacredmotherhood #parentingwithpresence #motherwound #relationshiphealing #ownyourstory #radicalhonesty

Your freedom is an invitation to everyone around you - your soul, your family, your partner, your lineage. Rewriting your lineage story is up to YOU. Because it starts with you. It is possible to shift family dynamics, starting by focusing on yourself. Ready to explore what’s possible when you stop carrying what isn’t yours to carry? Book a free Discovery Call to see which of my new offerings is a fit for you. Family Constellation? Private 1:1? Master the Madness? Would love to chat with you 💜 Link in bio to book 🔗 #LegacyOfLove #GenerationalHealing #BreakTheCycle #HealThePast #TransformMotherhood #AncestralHealing #EmotionalFreedom #RewriteTheStory #InnerHealing #FamilyDynamics #HealingIsPossible #ConsciousParenting #MotherhoodJourney #MatriarchalWisdom #SelfHealing #HealingTrauma #ReparentingOurselves #LiberateYourLineage #BreakingGenerationalPatterns #SacredMotherhood #AncestralWisdom #HonoringOurMothers #HealingForOurChildren #EmbodyLove #RootedInLove #RiseAbove #HealGrowThrive #FeminineWisdom #InnerWork #CycleBreaker

The mother is the heart of the home. What she does shapes her family and her home environment. When she knows this in her bones, doors of possibility open for everyone she encounters. She knows that prioritizing herself matters. She is honest and vulnerable, sets boundaries, and leads with love. She raises emotionally secure children who feel safe to express themselves, and she makes space for them to fall or fail, and build resilience. And the men? They rise to meet her. When a woman stands fully in her power, she naturally invites her partner to rise into his. This is not about perfection, it’s about showing up, doing the work, and trusting the process. Looking back, I wanted to say to the mothers of my struggling students: Do you see the environment you’re creating? Do you see how fear is steering the family? How, without meaning to, you block the very things you say you want? You can change this...by starting with yourself. Hi 💜 I’m Brenda and I help women claim their power by untangling stuck relationships with themselves, their children, parents and family (whether living, passed or estranged) unlocking their greatest potential and deepest joy. If you’re a mother who doesn’t yet feel powerful enough to shift the energy in your home, or you fear you're becoming someone who’s lost in the overwhelm, you may be a fit for my Legacy of Love 1:1 program. Link in bio to book.🔗💜 Even if it feels impossible, it truly IS possible to change your family dynamics. #energeticfield #familydynamics #familypatterns #breakthecycle #healingstartswithyou #intuitivesupport #energeticboundaries #reclaimyourself #generationalhealing #healingwork #transformyourlineage #unseenwounds #soulwork #belongingheals #selftrustjourney #radicalbelonging #familyenergywork #constellationmagic #HealingIsPossible #GenerationalHealing #BreakTheCycle #HealThePast #TransformMotherhood #AncestralHealing #EmotionalFreedom #RewriteTheStory #InnerHealing #FamilyDynamics

She came to me burned out, over-functioning, and cut off from her inner wisdom. Now, she loves and trusts herself. And shows up with her family honestly and vulnerably. This is what’s possible in our work together. 💫 Whether it’s a private Legacy of Love journey, a Family Constellation session, or a Discovery Call to feel into what’s a good fit for you, I'm here. 🌿 Message me to explore the next step. Hi 💜 I’m Brenda and I help women untangle stuck relationships with their children, parents and family, whether living, passed or estranged, unlocking their greatest potential and deepest joy. #LegacyOfLove #FamilyHealing #FamilyConstellations #EmotionalHealing #SelfTrust #GenerationalHealing #InnerWisdom #FemininePower #BreakTheCycle #EmbodiedHealing #HealingJourney #TraumaHealing #HolisticSupport #WomensHealing #ReclaimYourJoy #AncestralHealing #SelfLoveJourney #MotherWoundHealing #HealingTheFeminine #HealingThroughConnection #RewriteYourStory #NervousSystemSupport #ConsciousParenting #EnergyHealing #TransformYourLife #1on1Coaching #HealingSupport #HealingRelationships #ComeHomeToYourself

It is POSSIBLE to shift your family dynamics. The fight that happened between the siblings years ago, sitting there like a casserole on the dinner table that nobody wants to talk about... The aunt who never comes to family functions anymore because "she" will be there, and you really miss your aunt... The uncle who shows up to every gathering but always drinks too much, and everyone walks on eggshells, pretending not to notice... The way your mother asks you about your life in a way that makes you cringe... What feels impossible to change, is QUITE POSSIBLE. Sometimes, we move toward resolution through direct conversation. But other times, (and here's the magic) the way in is indirect, through the energetic field that holds everything your family system couldn’t say or didn’t know how to heal. This is where I come in. In a Family Constellation Session, I hold space for you to explore these unseen dynamics in a way that’s deeply transformative. It's PURE MAGIC. Because we are working with the field of POTENTIALITY...the realm beyond logic, beyond blame, beyond the black-and-white thinking we often bring to family relationships. I could share dozens of stories with you from my own life in which I worked out an awkward, painful situations that resolved in the most unbelievable ways. This is a gift of mine. Now I finally have a grounded structure to offer it to others. It's different from intuitive coaching, just as powerful. In these sessions, I work with 'the field' calling in ancestors, inviting unseen resources and opening to possibilities your mind could never plan for. What happens? Doors open, unexpected texts and phone calls appear, tension dissolves, people soften in ways that seemed impossible. Are you ready? QUANTUM Family Constellation Sessions with me start at $150 -link to book in my bio or DM me. #familyconstellation #systemichealing #ancestralhealing #intergenerationaltrauma #quantumhealing #somatichealing #sacredfamilywork #emotionalinheritance

You can't plan flow. But that doesn't mean I haven't tried. Like, yesterday.😂 Flow comes from letting go of things being any specific way. Allowing the grid to fill in with magic and miracles. I am fully down for planning, scheduling and calendaring, Oh gosh I love that so much. A solid structure / container is important and in service to creativity, abundance and flow. But you can't plan every little thing. (said the Triple Virgo, y'all) I got caught in a perfectionist trap yesterday - trying to plan every detail and make it just so. There was a lot involved in my day yesterday, a lot of moving pieces, a lot of texts coming my way, and I got underneath it for a bit. It's exhausting to my brain, my body. My entire being. That's how I know I am not in a state of openness - I feel heavy and stuck. Because there's force and will in perfectionism - the very things that block flow. Doors open and we have serendipitous things happen in our travels when we are open to receiving what life wants to offer us. When we try to plan every detail, we block flow. I realized I was doing this yesterday morning as I was getting ready to head out to my niece's graduation. Thank goodness for sisterhood - friends who hold me in love and truth, and tell me the truth in loving ways. Thank goodness I am in approval of when I get stuck in my mind, and for the process of alchemy - turning tightness + overthinking into ease + flow. By being present with what was happening inside of me... The space opened for true grace and flow. For magic and miracles, laughter and ease. And I had the best day 🙏🏽 Traveling 5+ hours in 3 states - picking up my son, my sister, going to the chiropractor for my hurt knee on the way. Easy travels, being early, spaciousness and so much laughter and love with my family. This is the life I am turned on by - the legacy I am creating - doing what I love, being in my body and fully available for the magic, money and miracles life wants to give me. 📸 Me at my HS, where I graduated 39 years ago, and where my niece graduated yesterday.

I've been deeply immersed in studying Family Constellations for the past 8 months and facilitated my first constellation today. This work is pure magic! In my work with women and moms, I have always worked with 'the field' - the energetic space that holds the unconscious and unspoken dynamics of family systems. When we’re entangled with someone in our family and someone bravely gives attention to what’s unsaid or hidden, it shifts the field. It makes the seemingly impossible… possible I’ve experienced this firsthand in my own family - deep resolution that’s blown my mind. It’s quantum change: beyond logic, beyond time. Truth emerges from the invisible. Change doesn’t have to take years...it can happen in a moment of presence and love. The constellation I facilitated today was with a woman who sought resolution with the father of her unborn child, who she chose to abort a few years prior. She felt the tensions within herself, the grief that he isn’t available for resolution, and her growing acceptance of it all. She received a deeper acknowledgement for the duality of grief and love. She’ll be sharing this experience with her family this summer, and she discovered that being seen in this truth is the medicine she needs. Resolution is possible within her and in sharing it with those she loves. This will continue to unfold for her in the next few weeks/months/years. Constellations offer a different path to healing, bringing clarity to stuck patterns, relief from inherited burdens, and a felt sense of belonging. Want to experience what's possible in the space of the seen and unseen? I am offering 2 complimentary sessions for anyone who would like to experience a 1:1 Family Constellation. In exchange, I am asking for a testimonial about your experience. Link in bio to book or DM me. Thank you and looking forward to the magic that unravels 🧚 #familyconstellations #thefield #ancestralhealing #quantumhealing #systemichealing #healingtrauma #generationalhealing #sacredmedicine #seenandunseen #energetichealing #inheritedtrauma #familypatterns #healingthemotherline #healingjourney #quantumchange #desireasmedicine

Our Bodies Know the Way Part 2: The Movement I recently felt the call to go back to pole dancing. Ten years ago, I used to take the train into NYC every week after teaching 6th graders all day. On paper it sounds a little wild, but it was always invigorating to follow my desires like that. Now, on the tail end of my peri-menopausal journey, I’m feeling the call again — this time with a deeper urgency to build strength and vitality in my body. And wow… it’s not easy. But like anything truly worth it, desire requires us to walk through gates. To reach it, we often have to face resistance, fear, and old stories that try to hold us back. I’m quite clear: I need to rebuild strength. And that means actively going against the pull to be sedentary, to believe the inherited stories that women grow weak, sick, or fragile as we age. I’m standing at a choice point — and I’m answering the call. I showed up for my second pole class recently and felt stronger than I did the first time. Woot! Midway through, the teacher demonstrated a gorgeous pole inversion that looked completely impossible to me. I watched as others tried it, telling myself I’d just do what I could. But that inversion? NOPE. Still, I tried what I could. I grabbed the pole with my right hand, lifted my left leg and wrapped it around the pole. I leaned my body down and reached for the pole with my left hand. My goodness, isn’t that enough?! My left foot was staying on the ground. Other women were trying the full pose and I was genuinely in awe. It didn’t feel possible for me. Then the teacher came over and offered to spot me. She was calm, confident, and absolutely certain I could do it. I was a YES. We moved together; three limbs on the pole, one foot still planted firmly on the floor, my pink sparkly toenail polish staring back at me. You want me to lift THAT foot? All my limbs on the pole? Nothing on the floor? But in that moment, I chose… // Part 2 Continued in Comments //

Our Bodies Know the Way Part 1: My Message I went to the gym last week and basically got my a$$ kicked. Pilates is… HARD. But wow, it feels good to do hard things. To move through something that feels intimidating, and come out the other side knowing you did it. At the end of class, I cried. Tears of gratitude and joy. (and that it was over, lol) Changing patterns in our life feels exactly like this...hard and worth it. I don’t know if everyone experiences this, but I can feel the women who came before me in my body. Their presence gives me information and insight. SO TRIPPY, I know… During that pilates class, I received a somatic generational download. I felt the energy of my female lineage. And I was shown that I’m currently at a choice-point about how I want to grow older. Right now, I don't feel very strong. Some parts are very strong from daiily yoga, but I do feel a change at 56. As we age, bone density decreases, and strength training becomes more important than cardio. My body is asking me to listen MORE. Some of the women in my family history have had histories of illness or physical challenges. Many were fairly inactive. I want a path where I am strong, agile and can keep up with my future grandchildren. This desire is clear to me, and my body was clear in pilates that it's action time. Now. Time to level up. She’s speaking, and I’m listening. To make this choice, I am going against the silent messages passed down to me. Messages like: Staying sedentary is normal and preferred Being weak and fragile is part of life Everyone gets sick as they get older These kinds of beliefs live in our cells. It’s why real change can feel so hard. Because our desires for how we want to live are often in conflict with our body's messages that can feel like truth. Is there something you want to shift, but it feels hard? Like it takes all of you? If you’re feeling pulled to make a change in life, chances are it’s your body asking you to choose differently than the messages you received. It's big work. I get it. I am here to guide women through these portals. DM me if this is you, and let’s see if working together fits, You got this.

I was swimming in the lake this afternoon and I saw a couple hovering the dock. As I got closer and swam past them, I waved hello, and she called out, Is it cold?! Yes! I said, but only for a moment. Then it feels amazing. She hesitated, dipping her hand in, announcing how cold it felt. I could feel how much she wanted to jump in, but the cold stopped her. As I happily swam by, the birds were chirping and a turtle dunked down. I was feeling so good being in the water - it was smooth and cool. And I thought… Desire is exactly like this. There is a gate to having what we want. We feel the call and we want it. And to have it, we must be willing to take a risk or be a little uncomfortable. Maybe that’s what makes it exciting? Or fulfilling? Or helps us grow? She did eventually get in the water. A few minutes later, she was laughing and swimming and I heard her call out to her partner, Come in, it feels great and I’m so warm now!! He hesitated, of course 🤣 What do you want? Are you willing to walk through the gate to have it? #desireasmedicine #breakingcycles #generationalhealing #healyourlineage #familydynamics #legacyoflove #somaticlegacy #ancestralwisdom #desirewithdepth #repatterning #walkthroughthegate #healingthroughdesire #embodiedlineage #desireleadstheway #reclaimyourtruth #sacredrewiring #cyclebreaker #familyconstellations #feelittotransformit #soulfulparenting #radicalhonesty #turntowarddesire #innerchildhealing #whatdoyouwantreally #desireoverduty #beyondthefamilystory #permissiontogrow #resourcedwoman #attunedliving #emotionalinheritance

Ever find yourself trying to change someone else? I’m the first one raising my hand over here 🙋🏽‍♀️ “If only they’d do this differently, or stop doing that, everything would be SO MUCH better…” But here’s the truth: ✨ That’s the REAL unmanageability. ✨ It’s how we keep ourselves STUCK ✨ We can’t change anyone - not even if they say they want to. Al-Anon reminds us: 💫 You didn’t cause it 💫 You can’t control it 💫 You can’t cure it (12 step) When someone you love is chaotic or draining, the urge to fix them can feel so strong. But that only steals your peace and power. The real power move? Turn the focus back on you. That’s where your TRUE clarity and freedom live. Ask yourself: What do *I* need right now that I can give myself? What boundary do I need or what pleasure can I turn towards? Hi, I’m Brenda 🍑 I help women untangle stuck family dynamics so they can feel clear, grounded, and lit up from within. 🌺 Link in bio to book a Sanity Saver or Discovery Call. YOU GOT THIS. #codependencyrecovery #alanonwisdom #detachmentwithlove #selftrust #emotionalboundaries #healingjourney #breakthecycle #familydynamics #generationalhealing #emotionalresilience #nervoussystemhealing #selfleadership #healingcodependency #boundariesarebeautiful #cyclebreaker #spiritualgrowth #selfregulation #mentalhealthawareness #consciousrelationships #healingfromwithin #stoppeoplepleasing #lovewithoutlosingyourself #brendafredericks

Ever find yourself trying to change someone else? If only they would do XYZ differently, things would be SO MUCH better! Geez, I have done this so much in my life. Newsflash: this is the real unmanageability. Even more than the other person’s behavior. We can never change anyone, even if they say they want to change. It can feel truly maddening. Al‑Anon says: ✨ You didn’t cause it ✨ You can’t control it ✨ You can’t cure it When we love someone with drama-filled or draining behavior, the pull to fix or change is so seductive. What it really does is drain your life force energy and destroy your peace because we have ZERO control over what others do. The power move is to put the attention back on yourself. This is what I help my clients with. Hi 💜 I’m Brenda and I help women untangle their relationships with their children, parents and family (whether living, estranged or passed), unlocking their greatest potential and deepest joy. LInk in bio to book a Sanity Saver Session or Discovery Call with me. #codependencyrecovery #alanonwisdom #detachmentwithlove #selftrust #emotionalboundaries #healingjourney #breakthecycle #familydynamics #generationalhealing #emotionalresilience #nervoussystemhealing #selfleadership #healingcodependency #boundariesarebeautiful #cyclebreaker #spiritualgrowth #selfregulation #mentalhealthawareness #consciousrelationships #healingfromwithin #stoppeoplepleasing #lovewithoutlosingyourself #brendafredericks

Swimming through the waves of life 🌊 Every path is different. Sometimes our path is smooth, sometimes rocky. Over a lifetime, definitely a mixture of both. Unlimited potential begins when we lean into the rocky times- the tensions with family, our children, our parents. We often repeat the situations over and over in order to really get the lessons. This is how we change our reality over time. Hi 💜 I’m Brenda and I help women untangle their relationships with their children and parents, and unlock their greatest potential and deepest joy. Generational change is possible and it begins with you, following your desire and your knowing that something MORE is possible. Because, you’re right, there is. Link in bio to book sessions or a discovery call with me.🔗💛 #HealingInMotion #DesireAsMedicine #SoulJourney #MotherLineMagic #GenerationalHealing #BreakingCycles #InnerWork #WavesOfBecoming #AncestralHealing #PoetryInMotion #ConsciousParenting #Reparenting #ShadowWork #SelfDiscovery #SpiritualGrowth #EmotionalHealing #HealingJourney #RadicalSelfLove #SacredFeminine #DivineTiming #FamilyWounds #LegacyOfLove #RiseAndHeal #HealingThroughWater #TransformYourStory #PathOfHealing #SacredJourney #InnerChildHealing #AwakenedWoman #CycleBreaker

When we stop pretending and start honoring ourselves… everything begins to shift. The pressure lifts. The resentment softens. And we are able to show up more present, loving, and clear. It might feel counterintuitive to spend time or money on yourself. But your loved ones feel the difference when you nourish yourself in the deepest of ways. They get the real you, not the burnt-out, bitter, or watered down version. It may be messy, but it’s real. It’s not selfish. It’s sacred. It’s necessary. It’s the beginning of freedom, for yourself and for your loved ones. #TangledUp #TakeCareOfYou #LegacyOfLove #SelfCareIsSacred #ChooseYou #DesireAsMedicine #BreakTheCycle #SoftnessIsStrength #EmotionalHealing #ComeHomeToYourself #HealingHelpsEveryone #FamilyHealing #CycleBreaker #WomenDoingTheWork #UndoTheMadness #NervousSystemHealing #RestIsRevolutionary #GenerationalChange #LoveWithoutResentment #StopPerforming #RadicalSelfCare #BoundariesAreLove #PeaceOverPerfection #SacredSelfCare #HealingMothers #MatriarchsRise #HealingIsResistance #SelfCompassionMatters #YouAreTheMedicine #HonorYourCapacity

It’s not just about your patterns or pain. It’s about what you inherited, what you watched the women before you do, and how you choose to live now. It's about what you choose to pass on (or not). It's also about recognizing the gifts you received. That's another post, stay tuned. It’s the moment you realize: You’re living out patterns that started long before you. You hear your parent's voice in your head, or coming out of your mouth, and it stops you in your tracks. You respond with upset, silence, guilt, or shock…and wonder, where did that come from? Pretty much everything we do in our lives we have learned from the generations before us. These ways of being are coded into our bodies. But you can change it with awareness, the desire to shift it, and a lot of patience and self-compassion. Examples of Patterns that are Passed Down: (there are millions of examples and they're different for everyone) Staying silent to "keep the peace" Feeling responsible for everyone’s emotional state Choosing emotionally unavailable partners and calling it love Feeling guilt for resting, laughing or setting a boundary Controlling your kids or partner because you were raised in chaos Overworking, Overspending, Overeating Hating men Generational change is the brave decision to see what’s been unseen before. To name the patterns. To feel what’s been unattended to before. To say: It may have started before me, but it changes with me. Not from blame. But from deep, honest love and desire. Because when you change, you stop passing down what you never asked for, but always carried. You create more choice. More space. More freedom. This is legacy work. Sacred work. And the heart of everything I do. 🌺 You don’t have to do it alone. What do you want your LEGACY to be? Book a Discovery Call to see if working together is a fit. No obligation or pressure ever, just honest conversation and connection. #BreakTheCycle #LegacyOfLove #DesireAsMedicine #GenerationalChange #MotherlineMagic #CycleBreaker #ChangeIsSacred #BeTheOne #FamilyPatterns #EmotionalClarity #UndoTheMadness #ShiftingTheStory #TriggeredButTrying #WomenDoingTheWork #RealTalkHealing #ChangeMakers

You want to be chill, feel centered and smooth… but somehow you end up managing emotions, avoiding drama, and passing the potato salad like a peace offering. Family gatherings can be tricky. Let’s untangle love from obligation. Book a Sanity Saver Session with me so you can feel more freedom and joy in your life, and at your summer family events. Link in bio or DM me. #TangledUp #FamilyDynamics #EmotionalLabor #BreakTheCycle #LegacyOfLove #DesireAsMedicine #GenerationalHealing #CycleBreaker #MotherlineHealing #HealingIsMessy #UnlearnAndReclaim #FamilyPatterns #NervousSystemSupport #EmotionalHealing #SoftIsStrong #SacredFeminine #TriggeredButTrying #HealingTogether #SelfLoveInAction #UndoTheMadness #SpiritualHealing #VirgoEnergy #WomenDoingTheWork #InnerChildHealing #HealingTheMotherWound #BodyRemembers #IntergenerationalHealing #RealTalkHealing #MakeItSacred #desireasmedicine

The Prom Paradox 🤵🏽👗 Your baby’s going to prom… and suddenly your heart is full of memories, fears, and questions about how much to say or spend. You have your own prom memories. Where did the time go?! You want them to feel free. But part of you still feels responsible for every little thing. What is yours to hold? What is theirs to figure out? Let’s untangle that. Because control isn’t the same as care. Ready to Untangle the prom paradox? ✨ A few Sanity Saver sessions still available at $111 before the price goes up to $144. Book now to get clarity and breathe easier. #TangledUp #PromSeason #LetThemFly #ParentingTeens #ConsciousParenting #SanitySaver #FamilyBoundaries #LegacyOfLove #EmotionalClarity #ParentingSupport #BreakTheCycle #HealingFamilyPatterns #PromEmotions #ParentYourselfFirst #FamilyDynamics #LineageHealing #TeenParenting #GrowingUpFast #SelfRegulation #MothersWork #ParentingWithGrace #UntangleTheMadness #LetGoWithLove #PromFeels #BoundariesAreLove #MindfulParenting #HealingTheLineage #ParentingSupport #StopTheCycle #FamilyHealing #RaisingTeens

Frazzled? You may be tangled up in your kid’s choices, feelings, or future. You’re not alone. From graduation tears to prom stress to the wild ride of summer plans… parenting can stir up a lot. Sending you a gentle reminder today that love doesn’t mean control and peace doesn’t come from fixing everything. We're all learning how to ride this life and we keep going every day, doing the best we can. I want to help you do your best and be self-loving along the way. ✨ A few Sanity Saver sessions still available at $111. Link in bio. 🔗 I'd love to work with you to have more inner peace and sanity. When you clear your own internal clutter and get more clear, your loved ones will naturally benefit. Let’s untangle what’s yours, what’s theirs, and what belongs to something bigger 💛 #parentingwithpresence #emotionalboundaries #motherhoodjourney #sanitysaver #tangledupparenting #graduationfeels #promseason #summerstress #healinggenerations #parentingteens #breakingcycles #legacyoflove #MindfulParenting #EmotionalResilience #ParentWithPresence #NervousSystemSupport #GenerationalHealing #UntangleWithLove #SacredBoundaries #GrowingWithYourKids #TendToYourself #HeartCenteredParenting

It’s graduation season…are you celebrating or silently spiraling? Probably a little of both? 💨 Where are you getting tangled up with your child, teen or college graduate? What’s yours to carry? … and what’s theirs to figure out? Letting go of control doesn’t mean letting go of love. It creates space for the love to breathe. Untangling the tangle allows more breath to enter. When you’re more clear and centered, everything really does magically feel better. The magic is your YES to getting untangled. ✨ Need a little SANITY around graduation season? A few Sanity Saver sessions are still available at $111 (price goes up to $144 soon). This one hour session helps you clear the emotional clutter and make sense of what’s really going on. Let’s untangle it together. 💬 Drop a 🎓 if this hit home. #TangledUp #GraduationSeason #ParentingSupport #MotherhoodJourney #ParentingTeens #EmotionalFreedom #LettingGoWithLove #LegacyOfLove #ConsciousParenting #MotherhoodUnfiltered #GenerationalHealing #SanitySaver #ParentCoach #BreakTheCycle #TeenParenting #HeartCenteredLiving #BoundariesMatter #FamilyDynamics #HealingTogether #EndOfSchoolYear #RitesOfPassage #InnerClarity #SupportForMoms #MindfulParenting #SelfTrust #EmpoweredMothers #ParentingWithGrace #HoldTheLineage #FromMadnessToMagic #EmotionalWellbeing

Tangled Up. Let’s Untangle it. You know the feeling - when love, worry, control, hope, and heartbreak all get mixed together. You want to support your kids, your family… But are you stepping in or overstepping? Are you honoring their path, or gripping too tightly to your own fear? ✨ My new series is a gentle unraveling…so you don’t have to✨ Real moments, messy questions, and honest reflections on where we get tangled up as parents, and how to find freedom again. ✨ First up: Graduation Edition. Then we’ll get into: BBQs, Prom, Father’s Day, Summer Plans, and more. What’s yours, what’s theirs, and what belongs to something bigger? Because you want peace. And your kids deserve your presence, not your panic. 💛 Need a little SANITY this season? A few Sanity Saver sessions are still available at $111 then the price goes up. Link in bio to book. This one hour session helps you clear the emotional clutter and make sense of what’s really going on. I’d love to work with you to untangle the mess. #TangledUp #FamilyDynamics #ConsciousParenting #LetGoToGrow #GenerationalHealing #ParentingSupport #EmotionalFreedom #LegacyOfLove #BreakTheCycle #HealingJourney #SanitySaver #BoundariesMatter #ParentingWisdom #CodependencyRecovery #SelfAwarenessMatters #FamilyPatterns #InnerWork #CompassionateParenting #ReleaseControl #AuthenticLiving #ParentWithClarity #MothersOnAMission #HealingStartsWithYou #CenteredParenting #AncestralHealing #EmpoweredMoms #MindfulMotherhood #ParentingTools #EmotionalResilience #TransformationStartsHere

True transformation happens when we turn inward and tend to our own wounds and patterns. When we clean up our own act with honesty and love, it ripples outward, shifting not only how we parent but also how we relate to our own parents and ancestors. This kind of deep lineage work breaks cycles that have lived for generations. It creates space for healing, freedom, and a new legacy rooted in love and awareness. What you want matters, how you carry yourself matters, how you feel matters. Not only for you, but for the family line that flows through you. When you put your own life mask on, it naturally ripples into your family. Your children, your parents, your lineage, our world, desperately needs women willing to step into their true power, and break the wounded cycles of scarcity, deprivation, survival. The gifts are endless, I can give you a million stories from my own life on why it matters to take care of yourself, and how it effects your family. BOOK a Discovery Call to learn more. I would love to hear what you want for yourself and your family 💛 #LegacyOfLove #GenerationalHealing #FamilyHealing #BreakTheCycle #ConsciousParenting #LineageWork #EmotionalInheritance #RewriteTheStory #SelfAwareness #HealingTheLineage #InnerWork #FamilyPatterns #TransformYourStory #ParentYourselfFirst #HealingMothers #FamilyLegacy #DeepHealing #GenerationalPatterns #SelfLeadership #MotherhoodJourney #FamilyDynamics #StopTheCycle #MindfulMothering #HealingStartsHere #EmotionalClarity #RewriteYourStory #MotherLine #HealingJourney #LegacyWork #FamilyTransformation

Letting go is an act of faith. And a *necessary* pose in parenting. It’s letting trust lead as opposed to control. Trusting that your kids have their own path. That they have their own God. It asks you to be with your own emotions as they fall and may be hurting. This is how they learn resiliency. (You too!) When you care for your emotions, fears and worries, you’ll have more clarity and spaciousness to be present to them, instead of your fears and worry leading. Or worse, them having to take care of your emotions. How can you be with your own worry and fear? How can you lead your children with more love and trust today? Link in bio to BOOK a session or a Discovery Call 💜 Loving you 💜 #consciousparenting #lettinggo #parentingwisdom #parentingteens #parentcoach #emotionalresilience #trusttheprocess #spaciousparenting #attachmentparenting #releasetheagenda #calibratedparenting #digitalboundaries #parentingfears #motherhoodunplugged #selfregulatedparent #parentgrowth #childledgrowth #parentingmindfully #honestmotherhood #braveparenting #parentingfromlove #resilientkids #healthyseparation #generationalhealing #trustyourchild #spiritualparenting #feeltoheal #parentingsupport #modernmotherhood #daringtoparent

The Art of Letting Go, Part 3 Letting go isn't a one-time decision. It's a daily practice of surrender. Especially in this digital age where your child is just a text away, it’s tempting to check, ask, intervene. But just because you can doesn’t mean you should. So how DO you let go? You face the truth: You’re not in control. You never were. Not if you want your child to truly live, follow their dreams, fall and learn to get up, and grow stronger from it. You feel your fear. Let it move through your body instead of spilling into your child’s life. That may mean crying or punching pillows. In fact, I recommend getting it out this way. You face your worst-case scenarios, the mental movies where everything goes wrong. And then you come back to the present moment, where everything is okay right now. You trust…in them, in life, in the unseen. Y ou remember… They have their own path. They have their own timing. They even have their own god. Letting go is not abandonment. It’s faith in action. Letting go looks different at different ages. It’s up to you as a parent to attune to what’s truly needed at each stage of development. Sometimes that means stepping in, and sometimes it means stepping way back. So next time you feel the urge to call, text, fix, drop your unsolicited opinion… Pause. Breathe. Feel. And choose trust. Let go. Again. Repeat forever. 💛 If you're ready to practice this kind of love, I’m here for the deeper work. Link to book in the comments. #consciousparenting #lettinggo #parentingwisdom #parentingteens #parentcoach #emotionalresilience #trusttheprocess #spaciousparenting #attachmentparenting #releasetheagenda #calibratedparenting #digitalboundaries #parentingfears #motherhoodunplugged #selfregulatedparent #parentgrowth #childledgrowth #parentingmindfully #honestmotherhood #braveparenting #parentingfromlove #resilientkids #healthyseparation #generationalhealing #trustyourchild #spiritualparenting #feeltoheal #parentingsupport #modernmotherhood #daringtoparent

There is a time to let your children GO. They are supposed to individuate, to create their own lives. This is the natural order of nature. Letting go looks different at all ages of development. When they're little, you show, help, guide and stand behind them. And as they grow up, you may stand further away, being there as needed, sometimes in the background. As parents, it's our responsibility to calibrate what is needed at different stages of development. Please know that your constant questions and concerns and worries and texts are holding them back. If you don’t let them go, if you don't back them, they will either have to defy you, take care of you, or cut you off. I get it...letting go is scary. it asks us to release control. We reach for control because we want them to be safe. In the letting go, you will be faced with your own fears and worries. What if you faced those fears? What if you gave your children s p a c e? To figure it out themselves? To fall, to fail, to GET UP? Stop hovering, directing, giving your unsolicited opinion. Stop infecting them with your own fears. What if your own cup was running full? And you got curious? And were available for honest conversation? What would be possible for your growing adult child then? Imagine what may shift in your family if you gave your children space to learn who they are? To become resilient? Who would YOU have to be to do let your child go? To drop your agenda? And who would your child become in this spaciousness and love? Who would YOU become? Where can you give your child more space today? What opens up when you lead with love instead of fear? Link in bio to book a session with me to find out. 💜 #LetGoToGrow #ParentingWithGrace #EmotionalFreedom #ConsciousParenting #ParentingShift #SpaceToGrow #IndividuationMatters #ParentingFromLove #ParentingEvolution #FamilyHealing #GenerationalPatterns #TrustTheProcess #GrowingUpTogether #HeartCenteredParenting #ParentingAwareness #SelfAwareParenting #BreakTheCycle #AlignedParenting #ParentingWisdom #MindfulParenting #HealingParenting #SupportNotControl #ParentingReflection #LoveWithoutFear

If you are attuned to your child, the times to let go will be very obvious. They will simply state it. They will lean in the direction of their dreams and desires, and you have the power to encourage or kill it in each moment. If you are afraid, they will feel it. If you don't believe in the possibility of dreams, they will feel it. If you limit them with your own worries, they will resent it. Even though it may not seem so, they want your acceptance and love. Let me ask you. What is it you truly want for your children? Do you want them to follow their heart’s desire? Or only if it fits into your model of safety and security? Do you want them to follow their dreams and take risks? Or only if they don’t get hurt, and YOU feel safe? Do you want them to speak for themselves and be fully expressed? Or only when it agrees with your beliefs? Or doesn’t ruffle the family feathers? Part 2 tomorrow - stay tuned. #ConsciousParenting #ParentingWisdom #LetThemGrow #BreakTheCycle #GenerationalHealing #ParentWithLove #ParentingAwareness #ParentingTruths #HeartCenteredParenting #RespectYourChild #ParentingJourney #HealingThroughParenting #EmpoweredParenting #SacredParenting #AlignedParenting #LetGoAndGrow #ParentingRealityCheck #MindfulMotherhood #AttunedParenting #LoveWithoutControl #ParentingWithPurpose #ChildLedLife #ParentingReflections #ParentingFromLove #UnlearningParenting #TrustTheProcess #FamilyHealing #AwakenedParenting #IntentionalParenting #LegacyOfLove

✨Radiance isn’t just a look. It’s a shift.✨ 
If you’re tired of spinning in the same cycles, wondering “Will it ever change?”, this is your sign. 💫 🍯Yes, you can feel sane in family madness. (When others are driving you crazy!)
🍯Yes, you can create change that lasts.
🍯Yes, you can shift your lineage with love. Taking action on your desires and investing in your inner peace is a huge part of self love. And a woman who is soft and loves herself is magnetic and radiant. 💃🏾Book your Sanity Saver Session. Clarity, compassion, and your future self await. After your session I send you a custom practice just for YOU 😘 📲 Link in bio to BOOK What do you want your legacy to be? #SanitySaver #GenerationalHealing #LegacyOfLove #EndTheCycle #MotherToDaughter #LineageHealing #EmotionalWellness #WomenSupportingWomen #RadicalSelfCare #SacredMotherhood #HealTheFamily #MatriarchRising #MamaWisdom #HealingIsPossible #BreakTheCycle #StopTheMadness #FeelTheShift #ChangeThatLasts #MamaToGrandma #DaughterWork #EmbodyYourLight #RootToRise #ConsciousMothering #SpiritualMotherhood #ClarityAndCompassion #HealingStartsWithYou #FeelSaneAgain #MotherLineMagic #BeTheOne #SelfLeadership

Years ago, a friend was helping me unload the dishwasher. When she asked where the drinking glasses went, I told her, “It doesn’t matter which shelf.” She looked at me, wide-eyed. Really?! She told me that moment changed her life. She had never considered that something as small as where glasses go could be a choice. She had grown up in a home where everything had a fixed place, a system she just followed. I recently shared this story with a client as we talked about how deeply ingrained patterns shape our lives, often without us realizing it, simply because it’s the way we’ve always done it. But in truth, there are infinite possibilities for how we live, love, work, and exist in the world. Examples: ✨ You don’t have to arrange your cabinets the way your parents did ✨ You don’t have to work a 9-5 if that doesn’t suit you ✨ You don’t have to raise your kids the way you were raised ✨ You don’t have to say yes when your body is screaming no ✨ You don’t have to do your family’s laundry "Okay, Brenda, that may be true, but HOW THE EFF do we change these things? I feel guilty and weird when I try to do something differently than how I was taught." 3 Steps to Changing a Pattern: 1. Awareness of the situation. 2. Choose a different thought or action each time you face it. 3. Be patient with yourself as you repeat steps 1 & 2 (this is what I help my clients with) Nobody will create the life you desire for yourself. It’s up to YOU. You need to decide and claim it. Then, love yourself as you move through transformation, even with the little resistances that come up What’s one thing you’ve always done just because... and how do you wish it was? Tell me, I want to know. 💥 Tired of doing things just because that’s how you were taught? In my 1-hour Sanity Saver Session, we’ll uncover the root of one draining family pattern and give you a clear next step to feel more free. First 5 women to book get it for $111 then the price goes up. Let’s make space for your new way. Link to book in my bio or dm me!

I received a gift this week that surprised and delighted me. My period. What a WONDER our bodies are!! I thought I was in menopause, but my body gifted me another round of mystery and release. And I am cracking up over here, going, "okay body, I hear you and I guess I am still peri-menopausal." What used to be an annoyance, an irritation, a bother, I now receive as a gift. I used to call my period "THAT" time of the month, on the rag, Aunt Flo. Each cycle I have gotten in the past few years I have viewed as an opportunity to change my relationship with my period and my body. To align myself with the true physiology of my body, as the gift of wonder and release that nature intended. And to release the shame, secrecy and disconnection I have felt around my cycle most of my life. I grew up in the 80's when we were taught that we could have and do it all. While liberating from past generations, this belief was not fully integrated yet and what I mostly experienced was a propensity to keep going, keep working, to overwork myself and do it all. Which is exhausting and eventually leads to a crash. We are meant to ebb and flow. We aren't meant to keep going. This wisdom is built into our bodies and I have overridden this most of my life simply because it wasn’t convenient. I welcomed the pause today, cancelling my afternoon to sit here cozy in my bed, write, listen to the rain and try a face blood mask, which I thought I'd never get to do. I have watched my younger friends and my daughter embrace their period, be intimate with the different parts of their cycle, which I never even knew existed until recent years (oh hello, luteal), schedule work, creativity and spaciousness around their cycle. They've taught me so much. I have felt sad that I never got the chance to do these things with my cycle. See Part 2 for the rest 💜

When I was 40, I heard a voice telling me there was MORE. WTF? Everything on paper was truly great. It really scared me.
 I tried to ignore it but it would NOT stop. I was starving and was depriving myself of love and the connection I really desired so the voices calling me got pretty loud. My relationship was messy and I didn’t know how to be honest about the HUGE internal shifts I was feeling. 
I left behind the life I had built... and I had no idea what I was doing. I moved fast and I made messy choices.
 I spent years cleaning up what I blew apart. I would never recommend anyone blow up their life. I wish someone had told me that; or that I would have listened! There’s so many self-loving gentle ways to work with the huge energy of desire and change. But in the wreckage I created, I began rebuilding myself and doing the repair work that was needed, and I am still doing so. The gifts have been tremendous…
I learned to live honestly.
To honor my body.
To trust conflict instead of fearing it.
To speak my desires.
To soften and appreciate men. 
Most of all… to love myself, even when I was lost and regretful. I created the offers and support I wish I had back then… What’s draining you?
What’s stirring your chaos? What do you want for yourself and your family? How can you have it? Book a Sanity Saver session, a one-time no commitment call to help you come back to yourself. 
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There is so much I could complain about right now. Everything feels kind of hard. When I was in California for 6 weeks before heading back to the east coast in April, I heard the voice to prepare a solid come down plan for myself. That generally looks like intentional time in my calendar for rest and integration. Yoga, good food, cooking, sleep, nature, writing, watching movies, and then repeat for days or a week, depending on the event. My friends call me the Come Down Queen, because I am really great at this practice, but I had no idea of the magnitude of this particular come. I came back to some challenging circumstances that I didn’t expect. The retreat I worked at was hard with two chefs dropping in the first two days. Then Spencer and I landed at our lake to a brand new space in which all of our stuff was in boxes and bags. We are building a new closet so none of our stuff is organized and I keep misplacing things like my keys. Preparing food for myself has been challenging. These are not my usual experiences and it’s been disorienting. Needless to say, none of this has been the soft landing I hoped for. When I look back at the month since I’ve been back, there’s not much I could have done differently, and we have both been doing our best, plus working well together. All wins! It hit me yesterday that my word of the year is EASE. That sent me into even more tears because this has not been an easy landing. Often with desire, we experience contrast. We experience what we do not want in order to know more fully what we want. Sometimes it’s just mofo hard. And I realized the cosmic joke is that my word of the year is NOT “easy”, it’s “ease”. 🤣 Thank you universe for helping me research the difference. Some research from the field: What do we do when life feels hard? How do we treat ourselves? Part 2 on comments

Forgiveness is often misunderstood. It’s not saying what happened was okay. It’s not pretending it didn’t hurt. Forgiveness is an act of liberation. Not for them, but for you. Forgiveness is an act of self love. Because the person you are in the deepest relationship with is yourself, and you are the creator of your life. Holding on to past pain effects your body, your life, your relationships, your children. Forgiveness is the moment you stop waiting for someone to acknowledge the pain they caused. It’s when you sit in your power by choosing to stop carrying the weight of it. It's choosing YOU...your sanity, your freedom. It doesn’t mean you trust them or stay in relationship. It means you’re done letting the pain define you. In my own journey, forgiveness didn’t come all at once. It came in waves and whispers. While on a yoga mat with tears gently falling and in middle of the night flashes. Forgiveness came when I was ready to feel the parts of me I wanted someone else to make better, but deep down knew they never could. That’s what my Legacy of Love path is really about. Not perfect families or easy stories… but courageous women willing to choose themselves, even when the other person doesn't apologize, or in my case, doesn't even respond to texts. Legacy of Love is for women ready to stop waiting for something outside to change, and to choose themselves....for yourself and the generations to come. If that’s you, I’d love to work with you. Book a Sanity Saver Session to gain perspective on what’s blocking you from true forgiveness and get to the root of the chaos in your life. First 5 women to book get it for $111, then the price goes up. xoxo

I have experienced this many times in my life, and two in particular stand out, painful in different ways. One was with my father after he died. I was 32 at the time and his death shook my entire world. I found myself doing an autopsy on our entire relationship, going through each unresolved piece, feeling it all, tending to my heart. As hard as it was, there was a certainty my mind could wrap itself around - that he was not available for conversations to share his perspective and heart. But the other one, with my ex-husband, has been trickier. I was stuck there for many years, pulling on him to talk and resolve things with me. How do you resolve a relationship that triggered all of your wounding with someone who will not come to the table? Most people get stuck here, believing they need the other person to find resolution. And it makes a lot of sense because we are wired for connection and repair. But it's not true. You can absolutely find resolution in yourself without the other person's participation. I know because I have done it. I've sat in the dark teasing out my responsibility in the crumbling of my marriage, one thread at a time. It has not been pretty, easy or static. As I have grown in the 13 years since our separation, I've been able to see myself more clearly. When I couldn't see myself fully yet, I was stuck in victimhood and outrage, standing in my righteousness that he was wrong. Yeah, yeah, I was wrong... but look how wrong he is. We can always find evidence that someone else is wrong. And it may even be true. But that’s the path of the hungry ghost, the archetype of the resentful divorced woman who is perpetually pissed off at her ex-husband. I've seen it a million times. It sucks. I never wanted to be that way. Being stuck in resentment—at an ex, a family member, or friend—shows me we haven't fully accepted the situation. We haven't done the internal excavation, the painstaking work of feeling our wounds, loving the tender parts, and taking real responsibility. It is humbling and ego-killing. Part 2 in comments...

Generational change is possible. And it starts with you. It starts with trusting the knowing in your body that something new wants to breathe. You know it is there, you can feel it. And you want it. It takes devotion. A willingness to face yourself with fierce honesty. To meet all that has shaped your life, to honor the patterns and the people, and then…decide, once and for all, that you will no longer carry what isn’t yours to hold. Because what is inside of you is yours and also not yours. You inherited all the behaviors and beliefs that have created your life so far. And it is possible to shift it. When you change, your entire lineage changes. The healing doesn’t stop with you. It ripples through generations: past, present, and future. I know this because I’ve lived it. My commitment to this work has reshaped my relationships with my children, parents, grandmothers, family, and my ancestors. It has rewritten the story of my lineage. Self-love and compassion are the foundation for all of it. You cannot hate yourself into transformation. True change happens when you meet yourself with love and acceptance. Even if your family relationships feel stuck, painful, or impossible, you still have the power to change it. Even if close family members have passed, you can still shift what has always felt unmovable. I facilitate witchy, liminal-space work where the energy around you transforms when you are willing to see, feel and acknowledge the truth that has been waiting for your loving attention. So, I ask you: ✨ What do you want for yourself? ✨ What do you want for your children? ✨ What do you want your legacy to be? I created Legacy of Love for women who are ready to step into their power, shift their lineage, and create a new reality for themselves and the generations before and after them. With my guidance and your willingness, lasting change is not only possible, it’s inevitable. One moment at a time. One choice at a time. It starts with you. Wanting change is one thing. Creating it is another. Are you ready? Click the link in my bio to book your session. Or set up a free Discovery Call and we can chat about what legacy you want to create.

Everything in my life has called me here. This moment. This work. This calling. My life's work has always centered around families and children. It's where my heart has always been. I am blessed to have spent 22 years teaching and working with families, plus 30 years of the best job ever - parenting. When I was in my late 30's I felt a calling to learn more about life and what makes me tick, and have spent the last 17 years in a deep re-education in the feminine, somatics, sensation, pleasure, truth, p*ssy stroking, pattern work, family constellations, movement practices and embodiment. And now, in my wise woman era, I feel a distinct calling to weave all of this together. My new offerings are a deepening of everything I have ever been, an ownership of all that I am, and all that I have to offer. Through my journey, as I failed and fell and got back up again, as I triumphed, I have always held a relentless commitment to myself and my growth, which if we break that down to its essence is changing generational patterns, living how the truth of my soul was calling me to live. It's been humbling and worth every hard and wonderful step. I have collected incredible tools and wisdom to help myself and my clients create the lasting change our souls crave. Mothers, daughters, sisters, aunts, grandmothers, if you feel the pull to live with more ease, to feel more powerful in your life, and to stop repeating the same old patterns as the generations before you, I am here for you. Generational change is possible. And it starts with you. Brand new offerings are now hot and ready for you. Three easy ways to work with me - single sessions, a 3 session package or a 5 month deeper dive. Link in bio 🔗 What family patterns do you want to shift? What is your soul calling you to? I want to know. I am here to help you have it.

Moms. Daughters. Grandmothers. Aunts. Sisters. I see you. I’ve got you. Through the many chapters of my life, I’ve gathered potent, hard-earned wisdom. And I’m deeply called to share it. With over 30 years of mothering and 22 years of supporting children and families, I’ve immersed myself in the study of family constellations, somatics, sensation, pleasure, truth, desire, p*ssy stroking, and embodiment work, curating a powerful toolkit for deep, lasting transformation. If you’re a woman ready to shift your story, change patterns, and create new circumstances in your life, I’m your woman. I help my clients cultivate more connection, clarity, and joy in their relationships, with their partners, their children, their parents, and most importantly, themselves. Because that’s where it begins- with you. I help women create the kind of legacy you’re proud to pass on. So let me ask you… what do you want your legacy to be? Message me to begin building your own Legacy of Love. Link in bio for newly opened sessions. First 5 women to book get the Sanity Saver Session for $111 then it goes up to the regular price of $144. Claim your spot and let’s begin💜 #LegacyOfLove #TransformYourLineage #EmbodiedMotherhood #HealingTheMotherLine #GenerationalHealing #BreakTheCycle #SomaticWisdom #SacredFeminine #FeminineLeadership #PleasureIsPower #FamilyConstellations #ConsciousParenting #MotherDaughterHealing #EmotionalHealing #RootToRise #WombWisdom #EmpoweredWomen #MatriarchMagic #RewriteYourStory #SelfLoveJourney #AlignedLiving #EmbodiedTruth #CycleBreaker #LegacyMakers #AwakenedWoman #FeminineHealing #IntergenerationalHealing #HealTheLineage

🗝️Mothers. Daughters. Grandmothers. Aunties. Sisters. 
When you choose a new path, the shift echoes beyond your lifetime. 
Your healing becomes a gift 
To the women who came before you.
To the ones who walk beside you.
To the ones yet to come. This is how families change. This is how legacies are created. 
It starts with you. You change by deciding it is time. And then taking action on your desire. 🦋SANITY SAVER SESSIONS🦋 ARE NOW OPEN 
Ready to break free from the chaos and reclaim your clarity? Start creating the legacy you truly want. 
The first 5 women to book get the exclusive rate of $111 — then it jumps to $144. 
This is your chance to get unstuck, untangle the madness, and feel lik3 the real YOU. 👑 Don’t wait. Sanity is sacred.👑 Link in bio🔗 #LegacyOfLove #GenerationalHealing #BreakTheCycle #MotherLineHealing #HealingThroughTheFeminine #EmbodyYourPower #FeminineWisdom #MatriarchRising #RewriteTheStory #WomenWhoHeal #HealedMothersHealChildren #TheNewWay #AwakenedMotherhood #DaughtersOfTheEarth #EmpoweredWomenEmpowerWomen #RippleEffect #LeadWithLove #SacredTransformation #AncestralHealing #SelfLedWoman #ReclaimYourLineage #AwakenTheLineage #ConsciousParenting #HealingTheMotherWound #PathOfTheHeart #ClaimYourPath #RiseRooted #MotherDaughterHealing

There was a time when this kind of chaos would’ve broken me. But I’ve healed (and continue to heal) generations of burnout, perfectionism, and martyrdom—and now, I meet challenging moments with presence. 🕯️✨ If you’re stuck in survival mode, spinning out, or trying to hold everything together, my ✨Sanity Saver session✨ is here to help you pause, breathe, and begin shifting your circumstances. DM me or click the link in bio🔗 to book your session. The first 3 people to sign up get the Sanity Saver session for $111 instead of $144. Any questions please ask. I’m also happy to hop on a free Discovery Call with you - link in bio to schedule. #SanitySaver #BreakTheCycle #LegacyOfLove #GenerationalHealing #EmotionalHealing #CycleBreaker #SlowIsSmooth #NervousSystemSupport #BurnoutRecovery #HealingIsPossible #SelfLeadership #HealingMama #ModernMatriarch #DesireAsMedicine #InnerPeaceJourney #PatternInterrupt #SelfWorthHealing #MamaWisdom #SelfTrust #RootedFeminine #UndoingPerfectionism #ConsciousMothering #HealingThroughChaos #MatriarchRise #SacredService #TraumaHealingJourney #CenterYourself #SomaticWisdom #ChoosePresence #ResourcedWoman

You Are Creating a Legacy, Every Day The way you live, love, and mother - yourself and your children - shapes the legacy you leave behind. It’s in how you love your parents, lead your family, hug your children and grow older. Whether you embrace your wisdom or buy into society’s obsession with youth. Or maybe a little of each. It’s in how you listen to your body, nourish yourself, and choose to be fully alive. You won’t always get it right. It was never about perfection. It’s about being fully yourself, living in alignment with what calls you, and having the courage to step outside the box. These simple (but not easy) choices are how we shift our lineage and create a lasting legacy. What legacy do you want to leave? ✨ Book a Legacy of Love session (single, 3-session, or 5-month journey) to gain clarity on the legacy you’re creating—and the one you truly desire. Link in bio🔗 Creating a Legacy of Love is possible. Ask me how I know. 💜 #LegacyOfLove #GenerationalHealing #BreakingCycles #MotherhoodJourney #SelfLove #AncestralHealing #EmpoweredWomen #HealingGenerations #MindfulMotherhood #ConsciousParenting #WomensWisdom #InnerWork #AlignedLiving #LiveWithLove #RewriteYourStory #EmbraceYourJourney #CourageousLiving #AuthenticSelf #HealingIsPossible #SelfGrowth #CreateYourLegacy #FeminineWisdom #WiseWoman #LoveYourself #WholeAndAlive #SacredFeminine #TransformYourLife #HealingMotherWound #EmbodiedLiving #HeartCenteredLeadership

California touched my heart in a way that only deep connections with women can. I specifically chose Grass Valley because some of my dearest friends live there. I arrived and dropped into the most gorgeous sisterhood. These are women I have travelled deep personal growth and embodiment journeys with. Women I have practiced truth telling, showing up as my most authentic self, deep listening and witnessing each other’s growth and expansions. Women I have cried to and held space for their grief and celebrations. A huge desire of mine is to be immersed in sisterhood. To have women surrounding me in my life. I have beautiful friendships on the east coast, and we are separated by miles and counties and a lot of traffic. Nothing impossible of course, but the magical nutrient I received in Grass Valley was a group of women all within 5-10 minutes of me. It was THE BEST. We got together _all the time_. It was easy and I landed inside of a beautiful structure they have built up. I was blessed by it. What happens when we have a desire is that we must build the capacity to HAVE it. So being around women and having plans every day, meant there were times I was tired and needed to rest or just be alone. I had to build up my capacity to have my desire. We did so many amazing things…walks in nature, hot tubbing, cooking, dinners, card pulling, making bouquets and bath bombs, women’s groups, coworking, walks in the woods, getting cocoa, shopping, moon ceremonies…it was magical. So, yes, it was hard to leave. One skill I have become quite good at is how to leave people and places well, how to leave with great love. It’s the act of loving and opening my heart, and keeping it open, while feeling the sadness of leaving, all the while with no grasping. About two weeks before the end of my trip, my son massaged and asked me when I was coming home. I am so grateful he did because it gave me the tether home that I needed. It was a magical god-stroke for my heart, and I booked my flight that day. Part 2 in comments

We drove the scenic route from Colorado to California through Utah with the desire to visit Bryce and Zion. This was not in the original plan but when a friend gave us a transmission of this quiet scenic road and how we MUST stop by Bryce on the way to Zion - it was a no brainer to do it. Thank goodness for flow and changing the plan, because what I experienced on these few days BLEW MY MIND and CRACKED MY HEART OPEN. Starting in Colorado, with the mountain views, I was speechless. And it continued through Route 24 through Utah with moment after jaw dropping moment. Experiencing Bryce National Park in the snow was incredible and romantic, on the day before Valentine’s Day. We stayed at a sweet little bed and breakfast, had delicious local pizza and left the next morning in the snow for Zion. Zion was absolutely gorgeous - the color of the cliffs and the views left me speechless again. The winding roads were exquisite and breathtaking. It was not an easy drive - we were basically on snowy mountain roads for 3 days traveling from Colorado to Bryce to Zion. My body was tense and there were moments that were scary. Thank goodness for Spencer, who is the most amazing grounded driver. He led us safely and I was able to rest well knowing I was in safe hands to witness the beauty. UTAH, you blew my mind on what’s possible and always have my heart 💜 #ScenicDrive #ColoradoToCalifornia #BryceCanyon #ZionNationalPark #UtahBeauty #TravelAdventures #HeartOpen #MountainViews #NatureLovers #SnowyJourney #BreathtakingViews #AdventureAwaits #SpiritualJourney #MindBlown #HeartCrackedOpen #ZionMagic #BryceInTheSnow #RomanticGetaway #AdventureInTheSnow #GratefulJourney #WindingRoads #TravelMemories #WondersOfNature #UtahExploration #MountainRoads #UnplannedAdventures #SnowyMountains #TravelingWithLove #ExploreTheUnknown

Colorado you are absolutely gorgeous ❄️🙌🏽 Favorite frames: ☃️resting at the gorgeous Hilton ☃️#meowwolf ☃️Denver Nuggets game ☃️Rickshaw ride home from game🛺 ☃️Berthoud Pass views 🙌🏽🏔️ ☃️mountains mountains and more mountains - all so stunning ☃️best farm raised steak and eggs ☃️hot springs and salt water pools ☃️Winter Park - best chili and views ☃️Fraser - being in the mountains in a beautiful space ☃️Corey the sweet dog 🐶 ☃️snowy walks that took my breath away ☃️speechless constantly at the gorgeousness of the mountains ☃️pedicure ☃️delicious home cooked meals- butternut squash soup and chicken soup ☃️how quickly the water boils at 8K feet ☃️being at 8K feet! ☃️snowy walks as much as possible ☃️dominoes #WinterWonderland #MountainMagic #ColoradoAdventures #SnowyEscapes #RockyMountainHigh #HiltonHotels #MeowWolf #DenverNuggets #RickshawRide #BerthoudPass #ScenicViews #MountainMajesty #FarmToTable #SteakAndEggs #HotSpringsRelaxation #SaltWaterPools #WinterParkColorado #ChiliWeather #FraserColorado #MountainRetreat #SnowCoveredBeauty #BreathlessViews #CozyVibes #PedicureTime #HomeCookedGoodness #AltitudeLife #FreshMountainAir #SnowyWalks

Asheville, you cracked my heart open with your blue mountain-y love. Some favorite frames of our time there (Dec 2024-Jan 2025) 🏔️eating dark chocolate and Indian food with Hailey, planting seeds for the future 🥰 🏔️epic basketball tournament between Jeremy & Jake - the tears, laughter and alchemy 🏔️getting to know Marc better 💜 🏔️shopping for colors in my color palette 🏔️spending time in Hailey & Marc’s beautiful home🥹 🏔️getting to know Marc’s boys - music showdowns, live comedy, basketball, laughter 🙏🏼 🏔️watching Hailey & Marc parent together 😭 🏔️carrot salad🥕 🏔️learning how to walk up hill and be chill - not like a New Yorker on the move 🏔️New Year’s sewing day with Cailin, Gali & Alice - butternut squash soup 🏔️my brother visiting and epic Jewwy meals delivered from Katz Deli in NYC 🏔️homemade potato latkes 🏔️spending 3 weeks with Hailey & Jeremy, together🙌🏽 🏔️Chai Pani, Mamacitas, Ukiah, Jerusalem Cafe👅 🏔️acupuncture & massage 🏔️our sweet Baylee died in Asheville🐶 🏔️the magic surrounding Baylee’s last week and his death 🏔️winter walks with Spencer 🏔️our quiet cabin in the woods with the hot tub 🏔️staying at District 42 hotel in downtown 🏔️contra dancing with Gali💃🏾 🏔️amazing present exchange with everyone ⛰️attending Hailey & Caitlin’s desire events ⛰️ringing in 2025 ⛰️recording beautiful desire pod episodes with Catherine ⛰️treating myself to all new make up ⛰️homemade hot chocolate ⛰️… #DrivenByDesire #EpicRoadTrip #CrossCountryAdventure #RoadTripUSA #TravelDiaries #Wanderlust #ExploreAmerica #AshevilleNC #BlueRidgeMountains #MountainMagic #ScenicDrive #TravelWithMe #RoadTripVibes #AdventureAwaits #WomenWhoWander #SoloTravel #TravelCommunity #TravelMore #HiddenGems #NatureLover #ExploreMore #DiscoverAsheville #VisitNC #RoadTripFun #TravelStories #RoamTheEarth #desireasmedicinepodcast #WildAndFree #BucketListAdventures #desireasmedicine

You initiated me into motherhood 30 years ago and my life has been infinitely better because of it. I read something recently that said we bring our mothers to their hearts, and you have surpassed that for me a thousandfold. Watching you in your curated life - your right sized life - where you are embodied, in your purpose and happy in love, in friendship and in your home, brings me the greatest of josy. My heart cries infinite tears of joy witnessing you. You have been my inspiration and my teacher since you made your presence known on that beautiful sunny morning in March, 1995. Your smile and presence lights up every room you walk into. We all want to be around Hailey Morgan, and I get to be your mama. You are hilariously funny, intuitive, brilliant and the most generous truth teller I know. You have shown me how to be a better daughter, how to own hard truths, how to be vulnerable and brutally honest at the same time. You’ve shown me how to be more of myself. In times where I didn’t know if I could get through hard spots, your presence called me forward, showing me what was possible. It’s quite a gift how you hold yourself and I am grateful to witness you. There’s just truly not enough words to express the fullness of my heart, and the depth of my love for you. 
Thank you for choosing me to be your mom 💜💜💜 Happy 30th Birthday Hailey Morgan🔥 Brennie Lynn Xoxo

I’m sitting in the EVEN BETTER THAN YOU CAN IMAGINE part of desire. 💦💦💦 You’re gonna love this story - listen to the end 🌺 This is how desire often works. We hold it, trust the process and be open to receive it when it comes. Can you recognize when your desire is here? It may look different than you pictured it. In fact, it usually does.😉 It’s my magic, money and miracles month. 🤑💎💜 Let me know your thoughts 🙏🏼 #desire #manifestation #trusttheprocess #alignment #magnetic #receive #intuition #surrender #dreamlife #soulcalling #energyshift #expansion #magicmoment #unexpectedblessings #divineguidance #allowing #lettinggo #flowstate #abundance #joyfulmanifestation #feminineenergy #opentoreceive #selftrust #easeandflow #universehasyourback #intention #souljourney #beyondimagination #trustyourpath #desireasmedicine

Grounding and keeping it simple while the eclipse and full moon energy do its thing. Playing and enjoying life. Virgo sun 🌞 , moon 🌕 and rising 👆🏼over here so there’s some big energy at play. ♍️ I’m reading the astrology like WTF - last time this kind of energy came in was 2016 when I sold my house, took a leave from my teaching job and moved across country. 😅 Those things were a LOT and I would choose differently now but man did I learn deep soul lessons. Staying grounded, and trusting my guides are leading me. #KitchenDiva #MakingChallah #VirgoSeason #VirgoEnergy #FullMoonEclipse #GroundingEnergy #StayRooted #CosmicEnergy #TrustTheProcess #EclipseSeason #MoonMagic #BigLifeChanges #SurrenderAndTrust #SelfCareRituals #CookingAsMeditation #HomeAlchemy #MindfulBaking #ChallahLove #SimplePleasures #SacredRituals #TrustYourGuides #AstrologyVibes #FullMoonFeels #EnergeticShifts #DivineTiming #ManifestationMagic #VirgoVibes #BakingTherapy #EmbraceTheChange #SpiritualJourney

Have you ever had a few days where it felt like all the sh*t hit the fan? That’s been me the past few days. And literally—the sewer at my Airbnb in California was overflowing 💩 I could tell you all the details: missing my Airbnb extension, my partner leaving early to care for his sick daughter, the house alarm going off early in the morning. But honestly, the story isn’t what matters. What matters is what was happening underneath. There is always something deeper happening underneath. My nervous system was rattled. I felt overwhelmed and stuck—unable to do the dishes or put the laundry away (which is a lot for this triple Virgo). Self-loathing crept in, along with the urge to punish myself. Instead, I laid on my yoga mat and cried. I offered love to the part of me that wants to collapse in blame. It made sense—I was at my limit. So rather than getting lost in the chaos, I slowed down, to get my body back in range. Instead of numbing with sweets or my phone, I nourished myself with broth, sweet potatoes, and herbal tea. I watched shows that made me laugh, went to bed early, and wrote to clear my fears. I saged my space, did some yoga, and reminded myself: nothing gets handled well in a state of overwhelm. The best thing I could do was return to my center. It’s easy to get lost in the STORY to fixate on the external instead of tending to what’s happening internally. This is exactly what our podcast episode is about this week: 🎙️the trap of getting stuck in the story🎧 I’m grateful I chose care over chaos. And I trust everything will be okay. As my system settles down, things are also feeling more clear - even the sewer is doing better 🙏🏼 Where in your life are you stuck in the story? What deeper truth is waiting for your attention? Listen to episode @desireasmedicinepodcast 🎧🎙️

I got called back for a second mammogram this week. They wanted more images on my left breast, and a diagnostic ultrasound. It's been sitting in my body all week. I have had moments of certainty that I am completely healthy and also felt the worry and fear that it could be terrible news. It really scared me. I am not a medical rabbit hole kind of person, but I asked ChapGPT for a clear list of all possible outcomes - from complete health to breast cancer - and there were many options. It soothed my system. There were moments this week I hooked myself on a fear and worry ride, picturing myself telling people I loved the worst news. 🎢 That is a terrible ride and I don't recommend it. It's fantasy fear and how we make things harder for ourselves. As soon as I caught myself doing it, I stopped it thank goodness. I am visiting friends in Northern Cali this month and it has been a gift to be in person every day with these women I love. My friend Michele put her hand on mine the other evening as we sat in the hot tub, my eyes tearing up, and she told me some good, honest truth in her most steady knowing voice: Even if it's something you don't want, it's still going to be okay. It's not a death sentence. You will do the next right thing and be okay. I really appreciated her clear love and being in the dark place with me. Because we just don't know what our future holds in any given moment. It could have gone either way. Last night I got fully on the "It's going to be OKAYYYYYY" ride. I felt the truth of this deeply in my body. I am healthy and well. I feel tired from travel, but overall, healthy, full of desire, life and love. LET ME TELL YOU HOW I BURST INTO TEARS THIS MORNING when the doctor relayed the wonderful news that my breasts are healthy and well. And, also a shout out for how absolutely glorious they are too! Part 2 (and the best part) in comments 🌺

In my first few years of teaching, I got an idea to start a sand collection. I started collecting sand from different places in the world and it was displayed in my classroom to show how different places were. I was teaching 6th grade Ancient Civilizations then and my students loved it. I taught in a very diverse area, with many military families, and when my students traveled, they returned with a container of sand in a water bottle or small plastic container to add to my collection. The sand collection really grew. Soon, I sand from all over the world: India, Spain, France, Mexico, Middle East, Canada, and of course, Florida, California and Caribbean Islands, to name a few. Some places I had to look up on a map to even know where it was. It was truly amazing to see how different each container of sand was, and how parts of our world were represented in sand. My students would open the containers, and get a taste of the world. I did this for several years, until one day, I looked at the big box that held all of the labelled containers of sand and it hit me: I hadn’t been to most of these places. Ugh, what a hard pill to swallow. It activated desire in me though. I realized I wanted to see more places in our world, to experience the sands of the world firsthand. I had forgotten this story until the other day when we were driving through Utah and looking at unbelievable towering red sandstones on scenic Route 24. The sand was orange-red. Piles and piles of it. I felt a strong urge to feel that sand. When I did, it was so soft and smooth, and felt so good running through my fingers. It was warm and really beautiful. I have traveled a lot in my life since I used to house that Sand Collection. And there’s so many more places I’d love to see. And in the past two weeks, I have seen places in Colorado and Utah that have truly blown my mind. Absolute wonder and amazement. Tears from the beauty and majesty of Mother Earth and her splendor. My goodness, it is impossible to describe and pictures don’t seem to capture it. Because it’s a feeling, an experience, that only comes from being there.

Speak this prayer slowly to yourself and notice what comes to you. Trust it. And put your attention on what you can control. Leave the rest to the universe to handle and watch your life change. This is how we co-create with the universe. We don’t have to do it all alone. #DesireAsMedicine #SelfLove #LetGoAndLetGod #CoCreateWithTheUniverse #MindfulnessMatters #StressReliefTips #TrustTheProcess #AnxietyRelief #FocusOnYou #ClarityAndCalm #InnerPeaceJourney #SerenityNow #EmpowermentTools #LifeHacksForPeace #SimplifyYourLife #MentalHealthMatters #WellnessJourney #EmbraceTheMoment #EnergyAlignment #PeacefulLiving #MindsetShift #serenityprayer #serenitynow #serenity

Death is so moving. And heart wrenching. And beautiful. 🐶🤍 Death has been a painful yet beautiful portal to feel more love for me, recently, and in the past. It has always led me to having more access to my own heart. 🙌🏽 It’s such a blessing to be in relationship with life this way. It’s not always easy, but it is being fully alive. And for that I am truly grateful 🙌🏽 A lesson I didn’t get to include in this carousel is: Be Open to Magic. We met with an animal whisperer before and after Baylee died. She channelled his voice and it was so precious to receive. He gave us beautiful messages about enjoying him, that his mission was to bring Spencer more joy, and that his body was in pain and it was time for him to go. He told us not to look back - that he is always with us and has visited us a few times already. This brought us so much joy and ease to our hearts. Thank you Baylee🙏🏼💋 #GriefJourney #LessonsFromMyDog #PetLoss #LoveAndLoss #DogMomLife #PetParenting #UnconditionalLove #HealingThroughGrief #LifeLessons #HeartHealing #DogLove #ForeverInMyHeart #LossAndLove #PetGriefSupport #EmotionalHealing #GrievingProcess #DogsAreFamily #LegacyOfLove #CherishedMemories #GriefSupport #LifeWithDogs #selflove #SoulfulConnections #DogsTeachUs #PetLoveForever #CompassionInGrief #GriefHealing #LessonsInLoss

🍯A CELEBRATION of my CREATIONS🍯 Recently, I’ve been in a bubble of grief after the shocking news that my sweet dog, Baylee, had lymphoma. In less than a week, he was gone. And yet, the world continues to turn. As I navigate my grief and adjust to life without Baylee, I’ve had a profound realization: 🔥my business is thriving🔥 Even in the midst of this heartache, everything I’ve worked so hard to build is running smoothly. And I am getting paid. Clients, podcasts, collaborations with other women—it’s all flowing. ✨🍯This is a huge moment of celebration!🍯✨ I’ve dreamed of having a steady, stable business that aligns with my zone of genius—something I love, something that supports me. Baylee’s passing brought clarity: 🍑I’ve created my desire🍑 This didn’t happen by chance. 
It came from a deep commitment to myself—to show up for myself no matter what, to be honest and loving, to learn new skills, and to back myself every single day. It came from being vulnerable enough to put my heart out into the world in thoughtful, genuine ways. It came from trusting my desires—trusting that the medicine I bring to the world matters, and that the right people will be drawn to work with me. What’s your desire? 🌟 How are you showing up to make it a reality? #GriefAndGrowth #TrustYourDesires #Resilience #EntrepreneurLife #HealingThroughGrief #InspiredAction #HeartCenteredBusiness #ZoneOfGenius #LifeAfterLoss #CreativeHealing #MindfulLiving #SoulWork #WomenSupportingWomen #AlignedLiving #CelebrateGrowth #InnerWork #EmotionalHealing #TransformationJourney #PurposeDriven #DreamBig #SelfCommitment #LovingYourself #PassionAndPurpose #ShowUpForYourself #HealingJourney #ClarityThroughLoss #PersonalGrowth #HonoringYourHeart #SoulfulEntrepreneur #LegacyOfLove

✨Desire. Life. Truth. The Feminine. Life Force Energy.✨ Whatever you call it, it's always moving through us. The question is - are we listening? We practice listening to our intuition. We work on having a grounded nervous system. We practice clear and loving communication. We practice reception and connection. All this practice is preparation for when we really need it. So when the shit hits, when life throws us a curve ball, we have had practice dribbling on the court to handle and take care of ourselves, and each other. I can't even explain the serendipity of how it's playing out with the end of Baylee's life. How the Universe is conspiring on all of our behalves so much more gorgeously than I could have even orchestrated. How my desire has guided us this whole time, how manifestation came to us, and then the protection of resistance dropped in, leading us to this exact spot. When we invest in the practice of feeling truth in our bodies, when we learn to attune to truth, life gets easier in some ways. The path becomes more clear because there is only truth to follow. Doing so can be quite the bitch, but, if we CAN follow it, or at least acknowledge it, then we are in a whole new game - we are meeting life on life's terms, with no resistance. That is called FLOW. That is when life force energy moves through us and when magic happens. When doors open and money or love or just the right phone number lands in our lap. It's when our hearts open, when love pours out, when we feel compassion, love, grief, tears and laughter all at the same time. We feel connected because we are connected to ourselves. Yesterday was hard for me because I was under the wave. I was not in agreement with our month long airbnb with a hot tub in the woods falling through at the last minute. Even in my dismay, I was able to see that there was a purpose to what was happening, even though it made no sense, and all I needed to do was feel into the next right move, and then follow. Part 2 in comments

Grief is love lost. Love with nowhere to go. It shows us the depths of our love and that makes the tears and loss tragically beautiful 💔 It’s my practice to lean in and be with the truth of what life brings me. And I did not see this one coming. Isn’t this song is so beautiful? 🎶💔🐶 #DogMomLife #LymphomaAwareness #CherishedMemories #FurBabyLove #ForeverInOurHearts #LoveHimUp #DogLoveForever #CanineCancer #HeartDog #PawsInOurHearts #CherishedMoments #UnconditionalLove #DogFamily #GrievingWithLove #HoldingOnTight #FinalDaysTogether #AshevilleLove #HealingInTheMountains #DogLossSupport #FaithfulCompanion #CelebratingLife #DogParentsJourney #LoveNeverDies #FamilyDogLove #RainbowBridgeBound #GoodbyeForNow #PetParentLove #ComfortAndCare #EndlessLove

Our sweet Baylee has lymphoma. It’s the worst kind, where there’s no treatment. Luckily for our hearts, even if we had brought him in sooner, it wouldn’t have made a difference in treatment or his impending death. I knew this on Monday when I looked at him. It landed in my body as truth: my sweet baby dog is dying. We are heartbroken 💔 We decided to stay local in Asheville and take care of him and love him up so much in his last few weeks as he dies naturally. We got a beautiful quiet space on the mountain so we can be in nature and it can be easy on us, too. He is in good spirits, eating and drinking, going to the bathroom. He is still loves playing outside and has been enjoying the snow this weekend. Now I get to spoil him with my homemade chicken broth and quadruple extra snuggles and love. Godspeed, Baylee. We love you so much. - [ ] #LovingGoodbyes #GoodbyeSweetFriend #DogMomLife #LymphomaAwareness #CherishedMemories #FurBabyLove #ForeverInOurHearts #LoveHimUp #DogLoveForever #CanineCancer #HeartDog #PawsInOurHearts #CherishedMoments #UnconditionalLove #DogFamily #GrievingWithLove #HoldingOnTight #FinalDaysTogether #AshevilleLove #HealingInTheMountains #DogLossSupport #FaithfulCompanion #CelebratingLife #DogParentsJourney #LoveNeverDies #FamilyDogLove #RainbowBridgeBound #GoodbyeForNow #PetParentLove

S T I L L N E S S It's what I really needed after a month long holiday with my family in Asheville. So much goodness to digest, so much togetherness, expansion and newness. So much joy. The universe gives you what you can't always give yourself. What you can't always see. I hit a wall packing up. I felt irritable, the whole thing was exhausting me and I felt pissed off. I knew it was time to move on, but couldn't see the next thing. I couldn't see that I needed to pause and rest, digest. I was suddenly disinterested in our trip to Colorado, California and all the places in between. The plan felt more draining than fun. I was full. There we were packing the car, me in tears. I was able to find the place in myself where I could commit to our next stop: Nashville, and that is all I could commit to. Meanwhile, the universe threw us a sideways stroke that I didn't expect. Our dog was suddenly not well. What began as him being lethargic and losing weight over the past few months, which we attributed to our traveling and the changing environments, suddenly felt very different. I looked at him on Monday and it landed in my body: he is dying. We immediately got him an appointment at the local vet and headed there with our car all packed and ready to go. We were both shocked, and not shocked, at the news that he probably has lymphoma. We are currently waiting on the bloodwork results which will hopefully come in tomorrow. From there, we will face the next decisions. In the office, as the veterinarian was filling us in on what to expect, it landed very clearly in my body to pause. That there is nowhere to go. I booked us an airbnb with my most desired ammenity, a hot tub. And it's a god stroke that there's a lovely fireplace and that our backyard is an actual creek. So, here I sit, in STILLNESS. Continued in comments

Desire is a path that has no guarantees. She is unpredictable and relentless. She calls us to live deeper at home within ourselves. If we listen. But first she will play with us and we may fall on our knees. And there lives the gifts, the jewels. 💎 Our desire helps us grow in ways we never thought possible. You can’t simply have your desire. You must become the woman who can have her desire. Do you hear her call? xoxo Labyrinth in Asheville #EndOfYearReflection #2024InReview #YearEndQuestions #GratitudePractice #PersonalGrowthJourney #DesireAsMedicine #SelfReflection #LetGoAndGrow #HeartOpeningPractice #IntentionalLiving #MindfulMoments #CelebrateYourWins #DreamBig2025 #EmbraceChange #ReflectAndGrow #NewYearIntentions #JournalingPrompts #MindsetShift #RawAndReal #desire

It’s possible to hold the mess and the gifts of your inner work at the same time. Because in truth, they exist together. Healing and change is non-linear. You don’t have to complete every cycle and change everything at once. In fact, it absolutely does not work that way. It’s important to acknowledge the gifts along the way. No matter how small they seem. And, honestly, they are not small. Every step is huge. We are brought into this life with codes in our body of how of how we are supposed to live. Codes for how to feel and what to believe. What is possible, what is safe and unsafe, acceptable and unacceptable. How we are supposed to love. And feel. These beliefs are passed to us through our cells by our parents, and our parents received it from our grandparents, and our grandparents from our great-grandparents and so on and so on, going back through the generations to the beginning of time. We are deeply interconnected. Each generation makes a change, no matter how seemingly small. I believe we all want to be better, do things differently. I believe this is part of the human spirit to want to grow and change. Sometimes the strides appear huge and sometimes they appear small. And each step matters. Each step is the foundation for the next step. It’s so important to see and CELEBRATE each step along the way. Because even inside of a giant messy repeating generational story situation, a brand new soft sprout will appear. A sprout of life, a sprout of change in the direction of your desires. The very thing you have been working towards. Can you see the sprout? And let it into your heart? And know that you created it? Can you hold this new baby sprout, even inside of the mess around and inside of you, even with so much more that you want to do in this life? Your mind will tell you that there is more to do, that it’s not enough - but don’t listen. Can you hold this new baby sprout and celebrate it? This is the duality of life in its highest expression of change. Laughing and crying at the same time. Heart wide open, seeing it all. Grief and desire sitting together at the same table.

Detachment. Detachment. Detachment. Sometimes you are elusive and I completely forget about you. Usually when my heart is set on something and I want it so badly because I believe it will bring me joy and fulfillment. Or the experience I want! I could go on and on about lack of trust, putting our will on things, control, attachment, gripping … BUT for today, I’m just normalizing how we get so adorably attached to something we want.🤭💛 It’s really all okay. And it’s good to laugh at ourselves and watch it all play out. #desire #selfacceptance #selfcompassion #radicalselflove #selflovejourney #embraceyourself #attachment #detachment #trustthejourney #selflove #desiresofmyheart #desiredlife #desireasmedicine #desireasmedicinepodcast #spiritualjourney #desires #desiresofyourheart #laughatyourself

My morning practices have morphed more times than I can count over the past 15 years. And that is 💃🏾THE POINT.💃🏾 Our practices are meant to be in service to our biggest opening. To us being our best true selves. What makes you feel like more of yourself? Do you feel the call? Will you listen? And lean in to your desire?

Desire is pure life force energy. It has intelligence that will guide you when you are willing to let go of the reigns and trust and follow it No agenda, no plan. Just listening. Can you trust it? You don’t have to know the way, the way knows the way 🎶 Comment THE WAY and I’ll send you the song 🎶 #desire #desires #love #desireasmedicine #motivation #dreams #passion #goals #k #lifestyle #instagram #discoverunder #firedesire #onedesire #heartdesire #burningdesire #desiremap #desirepath #power #passion #selfacceptance #radicalselflove #selflovejourney #innerpeace #embraceyourself #instadesire #instadesires #instaondesire #instaonfire #desireledlife

I woke up this morning and it was a gray rainy morning and now the sun is coming out. Life is kind of like that, isn’t it? The day after Thanksgiving I said goodbye to my Uncle Brad, my mom’s older brother. I am grateful I got to hold his hand and tell him I loved him before leaving New York for the winter. He was in the military and saluted me as I left his room. I saluted him back, singing goodbye, my legs kick dancing as I walked out - it was strangely perfect, and we were both laughing. Yesterday was his funeral and I was sad I was going to miss it. But I woke up with the download that I could attend by FaceTime. My son sat his phone next to him in the funeral home pews and I got to be there. It really made my day hearing people eulogize him. My Uncle Brad was a dreamer. He always had some plan or idea to make a million dollars or buy a family compound in Florida so we could all be together. His dreams were often unrealistic and fantastical - the last few years he couldn’t walk or take care of himself. But it never stopped him from dreaming. Continued in comments

What if you whole heartedly believed in the possibility of your deepest desire? 
What if it made no sense on paper? And you didn’t have a plan?
What if what you wanted felt so deep, tender and out of reach that it makes your heart ache? What if you weren’t even sure you could even have it in this lifetime? 
Could you still keep your heart open and follow it anyway? Are you willing to be stretched and transformed into the person who can hold and live your tender desire?? What would it take for you to just believe it’s even possible? DM me about working together in 2025 to move towards making your dreams more of a reality💜 #DesireAsMedicine #ManifestYourDreams #HeartCenteredLiving #FollowYourHeart #TrustTheProcess #EmotionalHealing #SelfDiscovery #InnerGrowth #PersonalTransformation #CourageToChange #AuthenticLiving #AlignWithYourDesires #DeepYearnings #HealingJourney #TenderHeart #PossibilityMindset #DreamBigLiveBigger #RadicalSelfLove #InnerStrength #SelfEmpowerment #SoulfulLiving #VulnerabilityIsStrength #ExpandYourPotential #MindfulLiving #TrustYourPath #PurposeDrivenLife #InnerWisdom #SoulGrowth #HeartOpener #LifeWithIntention

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H O L I D A Y ❄️ H O T L I N E is your go-to for staying centered and being your true self over the holidays. Build skills now to make the holiday drama-free and start off 2025 like you truly desire. ❄️HOW HOLIDAY HOTLINE WORKS💃🏾💫 📞 direct voice message me as needed 📞 I message you back with reflection, questions and/or insight to help you move through the issue 📞 repeat as needed…for 6 solid weeks 📞 know that you’re not alone in the madness PLUS💫 📞 receive a helpful tool each week to your inbox 📞 and a 45 minute call with me I have 30 years experience in parenting, working with children and families in education and coaching women on how to be their fully expressed true self in relationships, motherhood and yes, even with their family. 🪴💃🏾💫 I look forward to working with you over the holidays to make this season a really good one for you. 💛💛💛 Brenda Link in bio or dm me 🙏🏼🎁🕎🎅🏽💛 #HolidaySupport #StressFreeHolidays #DramaFreeZone #HolidayHotline #SelfCareSeason #BoundariesAreBeautiful #PeacefulHolidays #MindfulCelebrations #HolidaySanity #ThriveNotSurvive #HolidayWellness #InnerCalmOuterJoy #StayCentered #ChoosePeace #EmpoweredHolidays #JoyOverDrama #HolidayReset #MoreLoveLessStress #IntentionalLiving #HealthyBoundaries #SlowDownSeason #CelebrateYourWay #HolidayHarmony #NoMoreDrama #HolidayHacks #InnerPeaceMatters #HolidayJoyGuide #CalmIsContagious #HolidayGlowUp #StressLessCelebrateMore

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Let’s Make it Goooooood💃🏾🪩 What would it take for your holidays to feel sooo good? ✨ No drama ✨ No fuss ✨ No stress Is that even possible? But wait... isn’t the drama kinda funnnn? And honestly, what would we even talk about without it? I get it. Unplugging from problems and drama takes guts. It calls you to step into a bold, elevated version of YOU. 💫 Holiday Hotline Only 2 spots left—link in bio. #HolidaySupport #StressFreeHolidays #DramaFreeZone #HolidayHotline #SelfCareSeason #BoundariesAreBeautiful #PeacefulHolidays #MindfulCelebrations #HolidaySanity #ThriveNotSurvive #HolidayWellness #InnerCalmOuterJoy #StayCentered #ChoosePeace #EmpoweredHolidays #JoyOverDrama #HolidayReset #MoreLoveLessStress #IntentionalLiving #HealthyBoundaries #SlowDownSeason #CelebrateYourWay #HolidayHarmony #NoMoreDrama #HolidayHacks #InnerPeaceMatters #HolidayJoyGuide #CalmIsContagious #HolidayGlowUp #StressLessCelebrateMore

This year, a client of mine is approaching the holidays differently. She started planning her Thanksgiving weeks ago. And I don't mean recipes and travel plans. She has been making a plan for herself that includes family and friend time, all while putting her well being and capacity into the equation. I am so impressed by her dedication. Past holidays have ended with her in tears, arguing with her husband, and feeling drained for days afterwards. She realized that pushing through was NOT working anymore. Instead, she's been: 🦃 tuning in and being honest with herself about what she has the energy for 🦃communicating her needs & desires with her husband, who really wants to back her 🦃talking to her sister-in-law who invited them for Thanksgiving 🦃making a plan for herself that gives her the space & quiet she needs while also being part of the festiviites I am so proud of her. The holidays are meant to be a time of togetherness with those we love, but doing things "the way we've always done it" may not work for you anymore. Taking responsibility for your needs is what creates a holiday - and life - you truly love. It's SO EASY to put yourself last. Women are celebrated for that in our culture. But without caring for yourself, it's easy to end up burnt out and exhausted for days afterwards. No wonder so many people dread it. For weeks, my client & I have been slowly planning all of this. OVER VOICE MEMO!! ✨The other day she told me, "THESE VOICE MEMOS ARE CHANGING MY LIFE!"✨ That's when I realized that more people could benefit from this kind of support over the holidays. And, BOOM, Holiday Hotline was created.🎄✨🎅🏾🕎🦃 Continue in comments…

What I didn’t say in my post yesterday that is probably one of the most important pieces to me is that both of my kids were a YES to going on my spiritual journey with me. 
This is not always the case. Children do not always choose to go along on their parent’s spiritual journey, and parents don’t always go along with their children’s. It can cause a split in the relationship or inspire new paths for any of them. We deeply impact each other. My kids were both a SOUL YES and a HUMAN EMBODIED YES. 
I have always known this. It has always been true. 
Even when they were teenagers and looked at me like I was nutso. Even when I was wonky with the new things I was learning and trying to embody. Not everybody made it through my spiritual awakening. I have had significant loss as I embarked on my path of transformation. There’s a spiritual teaching about letting go: that what is TRUE will always stay or, if it goes, it will come back to you. I have experienced this in many different forms. It can be quite painful, which is why learning to let go and detach is a big part of transformation. Everything I learned in my courses and from my teachers, coaches, and practices, I brought home. They saw me change, and I included them in all of it. Hailey told me recently that she noticed a huge shift in my presence at home, that I was more alive than she had ever experienced me before. I would dance a lot and invite them to dance with me and do new practices and tools I was learning. They were often a no, haha! But I did them anyway. I started wearing fake tattoos for fun and got a nose ring. These were all ways that I was exploring a new form of expression for myself. One of the biggest changes I made in parenting was accepting their true yes and no. This came from my undoing of obligation, my own practice of starting to speak my authentic yes and no. Part 2 in comments

Navigate holiday and family chaos with ease🦃🎄🕎. Holiday Hotline will help you with: - managing family dynamics - emotional overwhelm - budgeting time and money - setting boundaries - handling conflict - decision making - staying centered and feeling like YOU - having more holiday joy - whatever is stressing you out You’re not alone this holiday season♥️ ✨Holiday Hotline✨ is a personalized 6 week program with direct voice memo access to me anytime you need it. It starts when you sign up. You also get a 45 minute intake call with me and holiday tools dropped directly to you every week for the 6 weeks. Holiday Hotline Details: ✨6 weeks direct voice memo access with me ✨Weekly tools dropped directly to your inbox ✨45 minute intake call with me ✨One payment of $688 or 3 payments of $229 There are only 3 spaces for Holiday Hotline and 1 is already taken. If you know this is for you, the link is in my bio or DM me. Let’s make this holiday season a really great one, together. xoxo Brenda 💛 #christmastime, #christmasmagic, #christmasmood, #christmasseason, #christmassy, #christmasiscoming, #christmaslights, #christmasgram, #christmasfun, #christmasgoodies #holidaycraze, #tistheseason, #holidaystruggles, #tistheseasontobejolly, #holidaygiftgiving, #holidaycheer, #holidaymayhem, #tistheseasontogive, #tistheseasonofgiving, #happyholidays, #hoorayitstheholidays, #holidaybliss, #merryandbright, #seasonsgreetings, #holidaysarehere

This woman.
I love her so much. Today closes a 16-year astrological cycle that set off a spiritual awakening in my life that changed everything. This woman was scared of the calling she felt. She ignored it for a long time, but it was SO LOUD it could not be ignored. This woman was me. I followed each thread that called me to the best of my ability. It didn’t make any sense on paper, I didn’t understand it, and I didn’t always think about the repercussions. I entered a playground of discovering who I truly was, and it was messy. The woman in this photo had a great life—one that she created, loved, and cherished. Yet—the calling. She wanted to feel herself, to feel sexy and powerful in new ways. She wanted to know herself and what she was capable of. She wanted fulfillment. To play and see what was inside this being, what was possible. What started as a journey of following this calling led to an unraveling of pretty much everything in my life. It was the most incredible and the most painful of journeys. And the astrological cycle that was the catalyst for me feeling the spark in my body from the universe ends today. So, I want to deeply THANK the version of me in this photo. 
She went for it.
She believed.
She took risks and jumped.
She did the best she could with what she knew. On this journey, I experienced the most incredible, beautiful God-moments that touched my heart in ways that brought me to tears with gratitude for living this life. I have traveled with the most incredible souls and had the best of times, beyond my wildest dreams. I had the best teachers and guides. And to counter all the joy, there were times of darkness so bleak and terrifying, I thought I might die there. Through this 16-year cycle, I have become more of myself than I could have ever imagined. Part 2 in comments

🦃✨ From Overwhelmed to Overflowing with Love ✨🦃 As a mom with grown kids, I know firsthand how stressful the holidays can be—balancing expectations, managing family dynamics, and trying to make it all “perfect.” For years, I poured so much into making everyone else happy that I became exhausted and overwhelmed and wanted to quit the holidays all together. But everything shifted when I transformed my relationship with me. I learned to set boundaries, find moments of joy, and embrace the messiness of the season with grace and love. It’s been a real work in progress. Recently, I’ve been helping a few of my clients prepare for the holidays—navigating tricky family dynamics and easing the stress—and it sparked something in me. ✨Introducing: Holiday Hotline✨ a private space for YOU to navigate the holidays with less stress and more clarity, peace, and joy Whether you’re juggling family tension, feeling overwhelmed by expectations, or just trying to find a little calm in the chaos, I’ve got tools and insights to help you move through it all. Holiday Hotline is a personalized 6 week program with direct voice memo access to me anytime you need it. It starts when you sign up. You also get a 45 minute intake call with me and holiday tools dropped directly to you every week for the 6 weeks. There are 3 spaces for Holiday Hotline and 1 is already taken. If you know this is for you, the link is in my bio or DM me. Holiday Hotline Details: ✨One payment of $688 or 3 payments of $229 ✨6 weeks direct voice memo access with me ✨Weekly tools dropped directly to your inbox ✨45 minute intake call with me Let’s make this holiday season a little brighter, together. 💖

The answer is always returning to our bodies. Going to nature. Chatting with friends. Feeling any emotions that want to rise. Keeping your heart open. Believing. I found this in my drafts and it feels perfect for today as energy is high. I love you 💜 #HealingGenerations #IntergenerationalWellness #AncestralHealing #HealingLegacy #HealingConnections #GenerationalHealing #HealingJourney #FamilyHealing #IntergenerationalHealing #HealingTogether #InterconnectedHealing #GenerationalWellness #AncestralWisdom #HealingRoots #InterwovenHealing #TransgenerationalHealing #FamilyWellness #LegacyHealing #HealingCircle #InheritedHealing #SpiritualGuidance #InnerPeace #SoulJourney #DivineWisdom #HigherSelf #SpiritualAwakening #MindfulLiving #SacredPath #Enlightenment #UniversalLove

🔥Generational change is possible🔥 A client recently sent me a podcast episode about healing generational patterns, and when I opened it—because this is so my jam —I realized I’d already been listening to this *exact episode*. Why? Because another client had sent me the same one just last week. Out of thousands of podcast episodes, both women sent me the same exact one. WILD, right? And yet, it makes perfect sense. I’ve been working deeply with both of them to navigate the complexity of loving their family members while feeling constantly overwhelmed and challenged by them. They want to be close to their families, but it’s tough and very stressful. Each of these women feel a strong pull to live and parent differently from their family. Does this sound familiar to you? If you feel called to live or parent differently, know that it is possible. You can break family cycles and do things differently than the generations before you. I’ve been guiding both of these women through a transformative process, helping them stay grounded with their families while maintaining their own peace. I am so proud of them both and the results have been incredible. One client is creating a Thanksgiving plan that helps her show up to her family with love—and feel really good about it for herself. (hint: desire and boundaries!). My other client, who’s been caring for an ill parent, is discovering that many of her triggers are rooted in inner child wounds. As we work on these, she’s finding more acceptance with her parents, leading to greater patience with them and with her own kids, and a stronger sense of self. Breaking family patterns is deep, life-changing work. The holidays brings all of our family stuff & patterns to the surface, but it doesn’t have to overwhelm you. This work can bring you closer to the family you love, while helping you feel more centered, empowered, and better able to be the parent and person you want to be. If you want to break cycles and step into a new way of living and parenting, message me. I’m here to help you move through the holidays (and every day) with more ease and sanity. xoxo

Living life with a touch of vintage flair and a whole lot of fun! 💃✨ Embracing every moment, because life is meant to dance to your own rhythm. #FlapperVibes #LivePlayfully #JoyfulMoments #DanceOfDesire #LivingInTheMoment #FindYourJoy #EmbraceTheNow #DanceThroughLife #FlapperFun #VintageVibes #JoyfulLiving #UnleashDesire #SlowMotionMagic #SpiritOfPlay #MomentsThatMatter #ExpressYourself #LivingFully #LivePlayfully #FeelTheRhythm #DanceItOut #CelebrateLife #DesireAsMedicine #DancingThroughTime #FeminineFreedom #EveryMomentCounts #FreeYourSpirit #BoldAndBeautiful #JoyInMotion

For me, living life well is a practice that involves embracing two aspects of desire. On one hand, we must be grateful for what we already have. Remember, what you have in your life now was once something you desired. Open your heart to the beauty of the present moment and appreciate everything you've done to create the life you're living. At the same time, ask yourself: What do I desire now? Express your desires—say them aloud, write them down, share them with friends. Place them in a God-Box, write them on paper and release them into the river, or whisper them to yourself each morning. Back yourself with action. What steps can you take to move towards your desire? As you do this, live your life in alignment with truth and joy as much as possible. Keep leaning in to this practice. Stay open to what the Universe offers you. Even if it’s not your full desire yet, it could be a sign, like driftwood, that your desire is near. Stay committed to yourself and your desires. Some desires manifest quickly, which can feel exciting. Others take longer—be patient with yourself and the Universe. And some may never come true. There are no guarantees with life or desire. But through this process, you will come to know yourself more deeply and expand into the fullest version of YOU. Xoxo #LiveWithIntention #ManifestYourDesires #GratitudePractice #AlignedLiving #EmbraceThePresent #FollowYourJoy #StayOpen #SelfDiscoveryJourney #DesireAndGratitude #UniverseGuidance #ManifestationMagic #TrustTheProcess #CreateYourLife #LivingInTruth #InnerGrowth #SpiritualJourney #BePatientWithYourself #PersonalExpansion #LivingInAlignment #DreamBigLiveBig #DesireAndDestiny #ConnectToYourself #SoulFulfillment #GratitudeAndGrowth #JoyInTheJourney #ManifestingDreams #SpiritualAwakening #MindfulLiving #TrustTheUniverse

💜Opening to Desire through Self Love💜 As we sat in the car dealership discussing when to pick the new Toyota up, Spencer and the salesman (who was 24! and adorable) were like: Friday works. And then I heard myself suggest Monday. In that moment I became very curious with myself. Why do I want to wait the whole weekend to get my new beautiful car? I was able to track it in my system: I am having resistance to letting go of my beloved Mazda. Tears started flowing right there in the dealership. I loved this moment. In the pursuit of desire, this is an important moment to recognize. The Universe was giving me exactly what I asked for: a new car. The question then becomes: Can I open to receive it? Or will I block it with my resistance? I slowed down to sit with this and chose to lean in. It is disrespectful to myself, to my desire, to my partner and the Universe to block my desire coming to me, the desire I asked for. I mean, this is how we self-sabotage! This is the moment in that story about the man who prayed for God’s help during a flood but refused a rowboat, motorboat, and helicopter, only to learn afterward that those were God’s answers. It’s important to recognize when life is giving you what you want. It’s helpful to build the skill to notice when you’re in resistance. It’s loving and kind to take the time to give yourself what you need to open to the desire. Maybe it’s time, tears, or some action. For me, it was all of these, plus ritual. Continued in comments💜

🤍Love Letter to My Car🤍 My desire was a car that would hold me through the years of my kids being teenagers and throughout their college years. I wanted a brand new car so it would be beautiful and last for the long haul. I wanted to own it so I would have zero car payments when my kids were in college. I wanted a big car with lots of seats so there would be space for both of my kids plus a few of their friends - each. I wanted heated leather seats. My sweet beloved Mazda was all of this and so much more. She has brought my family and I to so many beautiful places to create gorgeous memories together. Apple picking year after year. The kids stood on her to pick the apples up high. And that time she got stuck in the mud because we still went to the orchard even after it had rained for days on end. She brought us to my sister Lauren's college graduation in Binghamton and we took my Baubee with us too. We got stuck in tonnnns of traffic on the way back and when one of the kids had a bathroom emergency, she took us off the exit to a ballfield even though Baubee said we could just pee in a jar. We all laughed so hard and it still cracks me up to remember that day. She went through a lot of drive thrus. And held many many sandwiches, water bottles and cups of coffee. She survived Hurricane Sandy. We all took turns crying, laughing and being angry in this car. She traveled to Asheville, Nashville, Memphis, Pittsburgh, Philly, Dallas, Long Island and New Jersey, and so many other wonderful places I probably couldn't even remember. She drove us to visit my grandparents a million times and then, sadly, to their funerals. She took us to my mom's an endless amount of times for wonderful meals and barbecues. And to visit friends all over. She held me through major life transitions and difficult times. Through my spiritual awakening and transformation. When everything fell apart in my life, she was there. Sometimes she felt like the only material thing I owned. Continued in comments

This morning while setting up space for a retreat, a big piece of heavy wood slammed down on my toes. Surprisingly, it didn’t hurt that much. But it definitely shocked my system. I felt a cold wave run up my body, from my toes to my head. I took a moment and breathed. The two women I was working with asked me if I was okay. That’s when my tears pooled up. This moment is a choice-point. It’s so easy to brush the hurt away and jump back into action. Say you’re okay. Mask the fact that you have hurt or feelings. How many times have I overridden myself in this moment and brushed off how I really feel? Tolerate the pain, push it down, and feel horrible inside. I have watched women do this my whole life. That is not what I am here for. I’ve been working with myself to be soft and open, to be present with the truth in my body for over a decade. Part of my life’s work is learning to listen to my body and be with whatever comes up. I sat down and cried. It was a pretty short crying cycle. Without story or resistance, when we lean in, and open our body, it can run through quickly. I heard one of the women say to the other, “iI’s so great to be in a space where women feel their feelings and cry when needed.” YES. This is everything. But mostly this isn’t what is happening around us. It comes down to willingness to take up space. Pausing everything around you to take care of yourself. People around you may have to wait, the timing of your plan may be altered. Overriding our true needs leads to disconnection of self and that is the most painful existence. Thawing yourself out begins with the desire and willingness to be present with life and follow the threads that arise. Because I have taken the time to attune to the truth in my body, my life is richer and my relationships are so much more juicy and honest. PS my toes are black and blue, but feeling no pain 🙏🏽

🍑 Celebrating a gorgeous first season. Thank you to all of our listeners and guests. We love and appreciate you 🙏🏼 Season 2 is OUT and we keep getting better and better 🔥🤍 🍑 What do you want to learn about desire? #desiresofmyheart #desiredlife #desire #podcasting #desiredreality #selflove

Bellies. Bellies. BELLIES. Belly Hate. Belly Love. 
Where are you on the belly map? I spent years (decades) hiding and trying to flatten and fix my belly. 
To be honest, I never really tried very hard. Mostly I was stuck in a torturous cycle of hating my puffy belly. I spent the last few years truly nourishing myself, healing patterns of deprivation. This has been the ONLY path that has led me towards true acceptance of my body and healing my belly-hate. I went down a belly rabbit hole this week and discovered that throughout history, there have been many time periods when women’s bellies were celebrated and honored for their fullness. 
This really tickled me. Seeing the many times in history that women’s full bodies were celebrated, helped me zoom out and see the bigger picture. There will always be distorted beauty trends that try to dictate how we should look and define what beauty is. To capitalize on our self-hate. Focusing on this madness keeps you on the hamster wheel of discontent, constantly looking outside of yourself for the next fix-it to feel better. The only way to get free here is to internally orient ourselves to SELF, and begin to love ourselves as we are. With all our puffiness, scars, rolls, cellulite or whatever perceived imperfections you are stuck hating. 
To stand sovereign and steady in the midst of cultural ideals and embrace ourselves exactly as we are. True self-love is the medicine. It is unwavering, because it is rooted deep in our blood, bones, and soul. #selflove #bodyacceptance #bodypositivity #bellylove #selfcompassion #healingjourney #selfworth #fullbodylove #womensbodies #bodysovereignty #selfempowerment #bodyconfidence #unconditionallove #embraceyourself #bodyhealing #selfacceptance #nourishyoursoul #honoryourbody #culturalbeautystandards #loveyourbody #selfrespect #radicalselflove #innerstrength #puffybelly #bodyfreedom #beyondbeautystandards

This weekend, a woman asked if I was pregnant. It surprised me because it hadn’t happened in years, though it used to a lot. As we chatted, she explained that she’d recently had a baby, so pregnancy was on her mind. She noticed me rubbing my belly, which led her to ask. I hadn’t even realized I was doing it. Rubbing my belly has become natural—an act of love, feeling her softness and roundness. Years ago, this kind of comment would have really upset me. I would turn against my belly, wishing she were flatter, and I’d hold her in. It led to a lot of self-reflection and healing over the years. Part of my healing journey has been sharing about this openly instead of feeling embarrassed and hiding, feeling defeated. Talking and writing about my belly has helped me breathe fresh air and life into my healing. I have learned to stop sucking her in, hiding her and comparing her to the distortions I’ve been seeing since I was a teenager reading Seventeen magazine. I’ve chose to end the madness of trying to make her different or more palatable. Instead, I’ve opened to her softness, accepting her for exactly as she is, offering her love and tenderness. It’s so synchronistic that this happened the week that @coachcatherinen and I dropped a self-love podcast episode about Belly Wisdom We had an incredible conversation with somatic bodyworker, Elaine Konopka, who shared insights on embracing our bellies and learning to love them. In this episode, I dive deeper into my experiences, how they have effected me and how I moved to self-acceptance and love with my belly. 🙏🏼I would love to know more about your belly-love-journey and I invite you to listen in to our beautiful conversation. 🤍 Listen to episode 54 Belly Wisdom 🍑 @desireasmedicinepodcast #BellyLove #BodyAcceptance #SelfLoveJourney #EmbraceYourBody #BellyWisdom #LoveYourself #BodyPositivity #BodyConfidence #SelfCompassion #BodyHealing #RadicalSelfLove #WomenEmpowerment #BodyKindness #SelfAcceptance #BodyImageHealing #desireasmedicinepodcast #dedire #selflove

Celebrating leaning into desire and sticking with it, and each other, backing ourselves fully with our love and inspired action to deliver a podcast with topics that aren’t the norm in conversation. What desires are calling you? Forget if it’s possible or not…can you lean in and even admit the desire to yourself or a friend? Or to God? And follow the breadcrumbs, no matter how small. This is EVERYTHING. We are backing YOU! Thank you to our listeners 🙏🏼 We love your messages and how the episodes touched you. Keep it coming! We love to hear from you. Link to listen @desireasmedicinepodcast 🎧 Season 2 drops Wednesday September 4th🌹🎉 #InnerCritic #SelfDoubt #PersonalGrowth #SelfAcceptance #LifeDecisions #CompassionateLiving #EmotionalWellness #ReflectAndGrow #LifeJourney #SelfCompassion #LifeReflection #NavigatingEmotions #MindfulLiving #GrowthMindset #SelfDiscovery #CourageToChange #GapAndGain #LifePath #InnerStrength #PositiveMindset #EmbraceTheJourney #HealingJourney #SelfLoveJourney #WisdomInAging #GrowingOlderStronger #podcasting #podcasters #spotifypodcast #applepodcast